I'm a little obsessed but I think its because I'm new to this.
Summary: I met a girl I worked with, told her she was beautiful in a letter, she said it was sweet but she was starting seeing someone else. A few days passed I decided to ask her out (she said it wasn't serious and I figured what if I never do) and she said she thought it was cute and that she would say yes but she was starting to see someone else. We hugged and she walked on to her car. A week has passed and we haven't said anything to each other other than hey, hi, or the occasional awkward we caught each other looking at each other.
I've already posted this before several times but the thing is that its kind of awkward now. When I told her I thought she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen she told me something about knowing someone before I ask them out. Since then everything that I have come to know about her is kind of all the bad things. We talked about each other when I gave her the letter and I know what kind of person she is and I think she's amazing. After a week of not talking I feel like a douche. I wish I hadn't asked her out because now I feel like I just made things awkward. I'm afraid of her hating me so I don't want to try anything else. At the same time I don't want to let her go. I want her to be happy is all. How do I at least return this to normal. Obviously I can't tell her to forget the other guy.
I feel stuck and don't know what to do.
Love is strange. Its playing with me.
Edit: The thing that really has me confused is that when she says no its in a but she wants to say yes way. Is it just me? That's kind of what I get from her telling me she kept the letter in her book she reads and saying that if things don't work out she would gladly go on a date with me.
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Honestly I would forget her and move on and look for someone better. It sounds like she may be playing you or too confused to make up her mind and will end up hurting both of you. If you keep bugging her she may just get wierded out and tell you to keep away from her. I don't know exactly how well you know her but doesn't sound like a lot. As for future dating. It's ok to ask a person out on a date even if you don't know them that well. That's what dates are for.
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She's the kind of person who considers your feelings first before anything. That I knew from the start. I'm pretty positive she is not playing with me. I don't think I can get over her. She is seriously in my head at all times. (Creepy right?) I could seriously die for her. She is beautiful and amazing in a way that I can't get over. Ive wrote poetry, sung songs, etc. She's become something that I can't give up on. She's worth all the effort.
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Well I will say it does seem like your are obsessed with her in a way that is unhealthy for you. You need to realize that if she will not date you then that is pretty much it. You could keep trying and she may give in and she may not which could be more likely. There is other women out there that I'm sure you could fall for just the same if you was to look. You could just end up hurting yourself more and the relationship you do have with her if you keep it up. Things could go either way for you and only you can make the final decision. Just try not to keep her on a pedestal as there is many other women out there that are just as good that you could come to love just as much if not more.
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Should I get help. I know the possibilities and what is most likely...actually I'm clueless as to what would likely happen. I want to just be friends right now but I get a little nervous just thinking about talking to her because I dont how she would feel about it now and I don't want her to hate me if she thinks I'm trying still. My main goal at the moment is for her to not hate me but for us to still be friends. Kind of strange to be talking to someone you turned down right?
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Not really. Just try to be friends and get in a good level with her again and maybe in the future things could change. In the meantime you should at least try talking to other women even for just the sake to gain some confidence and some practice. Who knows you may find someone else instead. I don't know for sure if you actually need help or not. If you got the money it wouldn't hurt
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Who would I ask?
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Therapist I suppose. To be honest I never had went to one so I couldn't say for sure. That's if that is what your question is about.
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I am think I might consider it not just for this but for other problems as well.life is complicated. Thanks for what you do.
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Np. Like I said it couldn't hurt and they may be able to help you out more than I can or others here. Good luck to you and hope it all works out for you.