This is why I either play with one of two groups. 1) my buddies who either understand the smoke breaks or also have their own smoke breaks. 2) I tag along with a sherpa and a bunch of newbies. While he takes the next half an hour to explain it. I smoke. Grab some food. Relax from my Destiny job/career. Come back. Wipe a couple dozen times cuz they still don't understand. And then repeat at each boss.