I would argue me being able to actually be who i am in society will make more productive. I have started transition and have since been much much more willing to work for a better life and be able to make others lives better. You say I should accept what I have and deal with it? Some things can not be dealt with by laying down your arms and accepting you can't change something. I am dealing with it I am transitioning and making my life and those around me better they are not worrying about me anymore. How am i selfish for making the change that will benefit everyone around me. They want me to be happy and doing this makes them feel at ease. Those that do not do anything about it are selfish they cause their families to suffer with them. Just my point of view I try to be productive as anyone else.