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Edited by Spawn: 12/26/2014 3:01:24 AM
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Girl problems, Need Urgent Help

I know this is the Flood, but I decided to as you guys since I really care about you guys: I'm fed up with this girl. It's been almost a year and she's a complete flirt. We get really close to the point where we talk about "you know" (explicit detail on how we do our "thing"). She says she really trusts me and we are good friends. I felt like I was friendzoned before, so I stopped talking to her for a couple of months. about 3 weeks ago I came back but with more flirtatious and direct intentions. I touched her a lot, we hung out with friends and we started dancing and she was basically was dancing on top of me (it was a lot of fun), and we flirted through chat. (she later said she wasn't flirting, WTF). She knows I'm into her, but I don't know if she truly is into me. She is really shy around the guys she wants to date and usually doesn't talk to them, but she is not like that with me. I'm recently separating from her again because I can't deal with it. The urge to be with her is too much for my own good. I was thinking of just telling her straight up whether or not she likes me/ wants to be with me or be FWB (friends with benefits), but I heard that that kind of assertiveness scares girls away. What should I do? Should I get some closure and most likely get turned down, but then move on (expect the worst, hope for the best). Or, should I try and approach this some other way? Also, when I would grab her around the waist or put my arm around her/rub her neck and shoulders, she didn't pull away unless someone brought it up and it became awkward or unless I left my arm there for too long. However, I know that she likes attention, so maybe that is all she is after?!

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  • Alright...I'm a very flirtatious chick, so I think I can help you out here. Talk. To. Her. Seriously. She probably doesn't know what she wants right now, but by talking to her, you'll get her really thinking serious about things. Then you have decisions to make. Can you still be friends if you're not fooling around? Would you be ok with just fooling around and no relationship? Keep in mind that if you do go for the relationship, it doesn't mean the flirting with others will stop. No matter how much attention you give her. It's not bc she's not into you...it's just her personality. As long as you keep open and honest communication, it will be all good.

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