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Edited by physman:
4/19/2014 3:58:13 AM
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Is my opinion towards gay people rude / inconsiderate?
Love is love, people can love who they want and it doesn't really matter to me. I don't support it nor am I against it.
[b]I do[/b] however [b]think it is really weird[/b] (because I'm straight and it is Really hard for me to picture myself liking someone the same gender as me) [b]and unnatural and I really don't want my kid to be gay[/b] since I want grandchildren and I believe that having sex with the opposite gender and producing children is a lot more natural (natural human behavior) compared to anal'ing and / or having sex with someone who is the same gender.
In highschool, I lived a really drama-filled life since my friend's girlfriends liked me / a lot of hearts were broken. So now, until I graduate university, I am avoiding making good friends with girls since I'm afraid one of them might end up liking me and I really want to live the rest of my university life focusing on school and not starting a drama-filled life again because it messes up my studies. With that said, [b]I am avoiding gays[/b] for the same reason I am avoiding girls.
However, if I end up seeing a really cute girl at work, I would approach her with the hopes of her liking me, but [b]I will not approach a gay person[/b] and be [b]good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me[/b] (I'm not saying all gays like me, I'm saying that there is a possibility that a gay person will end up liking me if we became friends - [b]just like how a girl MIGHT end up liking me if we become friends[/b] - and I wouldn't want a gay person to like me.. I would love if a cute girl liked me though).
Am I now labelled as a villain in society because of my opinion? [u]I posted this question because I was hoping someone can explain what part of my opinion is close minded so that I can have a more 'un-close minded' opinion. I want to learn, but that doesn't mean I want people starting a rant against me. I just want others to give me their opinion as to how I am close minded / being a 'dick'[/u].
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Edited by Recon Number 54: 4/19/2014 9:21:30 PMA common tool to make a self-comparison to others when it comes to how the individual views those who they consider to be "in another group than I" is Dorothy Riddle's scale of acceptance. It has no "zero point" and the placement of an individual is not intended to judge, but to inform. It has 4 "positive" and 4 "negative" ranges when it comes to the individual's views on "the others". Interestingly, it places the terms "tolerance and acceptance" in the negative side of the divide as they still (at the core) imply a negative response, but one that the individual controls for social compliance and is (in essence) a form of passive-aggressiveness that is near the center of the scale. There are plenty of online quizzes to see how an individual's personal views compare to those of others and the whole. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/etc/quiz.html is just one. Self examination, questioning ones current views and positions, and attempting to learn those of other people, is all a positive thing. It's FAR better than deciding "I am right, I don't need any more information or to discuss this" and closing oneself off to how/what other people think and any potential validity of those views (regardless of whether or not they are higher OR lower on your personal point on the scale at this time). We all learn (well, most of us), we all grow, we all try to understand ourselves and others better. It's a long and slow process, but it is a worthwhile one. The first step is asking "what do I think, how do I feel, and why do I think/feel the way I do?"
