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Edited by physman:
4/19/2014 3:58:13 AM
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Is my opinion towards gay people rude / inconsiderate?
Love is love, people can love who they want and it doesn't really matter to me. I don't support it nor am I against it.
[b]I do[/b] however [b]think it is really weird[/b] (because I'm straight and it is Really hard for me to picture myself liking someone the same gender as me) [b]and unnatural and I really don't want my kid to be gay[/b] since I want grandchildren and I believe that having sex with the opposite gender and producing children is a lot more natural (natural human behavior) compared to anal'ing and / or having sex with someone who is the same gender.
In highschool, I lived a really drama-filled life since my friend's girlfriends liked me / a lot of hearts were broken. So now, until I graduate university, I am avoiding making good friends with girls since I'm afraid one of them might end up liking me and I really want to live the rest of my university life focusing on school and not starting a drama-filled life again because it messes up my studies. With that said, [b]I am avoiding gays[/b] for the same reason I am avoiding girls.
However, if I end up seeing a really cute girl at work, I would approach her with the hopes of her liking me, but [b]I will not approach a gay person[/b] and be [b]good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me[/b] (I'm not saying all gays like me, I'm saying that there is a possibility that a gay person will end up liking me if we became friends - [b]just like how a girl MIGHT end up liking me if we become friends[/b] - and I wouldn't want a gay person to like me.. I would love if a cute girl liked me though).
Am I now labelled as a villain in society because of my opinion? [u]I posted this question because I was hoping someone can explain what part of my opinion is close minded so that I can have a more 'un-close minded' opinion. I want to learn, but that doesn't mean I want people starting a rant against me. I just want others to give me their opinion as to how I am close minded / being a 'dick'[/u].
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[quote][b]and unnatural[/b][/quote] stopped reading there
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Edited by The Fiddler: 4/20/2014 5:14:46 AMYour logic is sound, up until the moment you say you can't/ don't want to deal with gay people around you. Here's the thing. Most gay guys only go out with other gay guys. If gay guy DOES start hitting on you it shouldn't be a big deal. Just explain the situation to him. Your not gay, please stop, and it should end there. Be comfortable about your sexuality dude. If a guy says you look good, take the compliment and move on. It means you look good. The other problem is with you not wanting your kids to be gay. I understand that you want children and grand kids and all. But you can't control your kids sexuality. Statistically speaking the chances are low. But if even the possibility freaks you out then maybe your not ready for kids? Just my opinion bro.
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I avoid straight people in the fear that they might make gay babies.
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15 RepliesYou're really close minded in my opinion, but hey, we're all entitled to those. I'm not a fan of the gay pride parades because I don't believe in forcing people to watch crude displays. If a straight pride parade pulled what a lot of gay pride parades do, everyone would be in a bit of trouble. Just because you're open about your sexual orientation doesn't mean you're entitled to make everyone watch you make out with strangers. I'm all for gay rights and all, but crude displays and the in your face kind of attitude doesn't make anyone happy.
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1 ReplyEdited by God: 4/19/2014 8:52:46 PM[quote]it is really hard for me to picture myself liking someone the same gender as me[/quote] Uh... you don't have too. [quote]I believe that having sex with the opposite gender and producing children is a lot more natural[/quote] And I find the idea of 'more natural' pretty silly. I mean, if you really care about whats natural then what are you doing on the internet? [quote]So now, until I graduate university, I am avoiding making good friends with girls since I'm afraid one of them might end up liking me and I really want to live the rest of my university life focusing on school and not starting a drama-filled life again because it messes up my studies.[/quote] This whole concept is just... You seriously think that any girl you try to be friends with will have a good chance of falling in love with you and won't be able to handle those situations like adults, and that it's a good idea to just avoid social interaction involving them? Are you serious? Whatever happened to you in highschool that traumatized you so much, that is a very unhealthy line of thought, whether it's a girl or a gay guy. Overall yes that behavior would be considered homophobic, and even a little misogynistic to boot, but also a lot of what you said above really comes of as downright paranoid, worrying excessively about things most people don't even think about.
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1 ReplyEdited by Flee: 4/19/2014 8:46:51 PM[quote]I really don't want my kid to be gay[/quote] [quote]I am avoiding gays[/quote] [quote]I will not approach a gay person and be good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me[/quote]No, your opinion on gay people is extremely open-minded, commendable and in no way completely backwards.
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Edited by Recon Number 54: 4/19/2014 9:21:30 PMA common tool to make a self-comparison to others when it comes to how the individual views those who they consider to be "in another group than I" is Dorothy Riddle's scale of acceptance. It has no "zero point" and the placement of an individual is not intended to judge, but to inform. It has 4 "positive" and 4 "negative" ranges when it comes to the individual's views on "the others". Interestingly, it places the terms "tolerance and acceptance" in the negative side of the divide as they still (at the core) imply a negative response, but one that the individual controls for social compliance and is (in essence) a form of passive-aggressiveness that is near the center of the scale. There are plenty of online quizzes to see how an individual's personal views compare to those of others and the whole. http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/assault/etc/quiz.html is just one. Self examination, questioning ones current views and positions, and attempting to learn those of other people, is all a positive thing. It's FAR better than deciding "I am right, I don't need any more information or to discuss this" and closing oneself off to how/what other people think and any potential validity of those views (regardless of whether or not they are higher OR lower on your personal point on the scale at this time). We all learn (well, most of us), we all grow, we all try to understand ourselves and others better. It's a long and slow process, but it is a worthwhile one. The first step is asking "what do I think, how do I feel, and why do I think/feel the way I do?"
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1 ReplyBecause all gay dudes are attracted to you, obviously. Get real.
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5 RepliesYou avoid all gay people because you're afraid that one might end up liking you? That's kinda dumb, but so is not talking to girls because one might end up liking you. It's not hard to just say no, op.
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4 RepliesEdited by Madman Mordo: 4/19/2014 7:45:13 PMUnfortunately, yes. Although you're not WBC tier, you need to seriously rewire your attitude towards homosexuality, and maybe consider the possibility that you could just be an overall ignorant guy. When you talk to homosexuals, shockingly enough, you'll find that they're just normal people with the same everyday vices as you and me. I don't see why you'd feel the need to be uncomfortable if a dude found you attractive, unless he was physically coming on to you. They can't control their feelings for someone anymore than you can control yours for a girl. So at least have a modicum of respect for someone's sexuality, as they did not choose it, they were born with it.
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2 RepliesGay people are gross. My opinion.
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Yes, you're an asshole.
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1 ReplyIf you have to ask, then yes.
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Yeah, I guess that sounds reasonable OP
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[quote][b][i][u]anal'ing[/b][/u][/i][/quote]
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It's definitely not a new culture thing
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5 RepliesI think it's the whole "be good friends with him because I wouldn't want him to like me" thing that comes off as homophobic. Saying you don't want to be friends with someone because of their sexuality is a bit messed up. People are much more than the sum of their attractions. Do you actually know any gay people? Did you have a bad experience? I've known nice gay people and other not so nice gay people, I've also know nice straight people and not nice straight people. You should try to look at the person, not their sexuality. Also Gay culture is not new, it's been around for centuries, it's just now it has come into the mainstream.
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No, you're entitled to your opinion. Its just when that opinion starts affecting the lives of others negatively that it starts being wrong. Also its normal for straights to think its weird. Obviously, just like a gay person is unattracted or even find straight sex strange. Personally I get turned on by same sex people no matter what I do.
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No, butt gheys r. fite meh.
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7 Repliesas long as you're not getting in the way of their journey to equality, keep doing what you're doing. i mean, i kinda think you're a dick, but that's not against the rules.
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6 RepliesI think it's a bit misinformed/fearful but it's not the worst one I've seen on here. You will probably be labelled satan incarnate for it by some people, but anyway. The number one thing to remember about gay people is that they are just people. They aren't weird or unnatural, just a bit different to the 'normal' heterosexuality. (If anyone gives me shit for using the word normal, I might slap you btw) If they like you, it's not the end of the world. Just tell them you don't swing that way, and that should be that. As for not wanting your kid to be gay, it's understandable but ask yourself this - would you really treat your own child badly because of the way they are? It's not a choice, just a biological/genetic/sociological quirk.
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ur dumb op
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Its k
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1 ReplyNah it's your opinion.
