As far as I'm concerned, there is only one marriage which is fair to everyone (or at least should be), which is that performed or issued by the state in some manner (ie. marriage certificate/license) for additional benefits (such as for taxation purposes, etc...) wherein each party in the marriage agrees to it under the law. As an aside, I don't see the point in marriage. Love is what's important, marriage is not*. I also can't help but shake the idea that some people might not believe that a couple is really "in love" or "a couple" until they're married. This is ridiculous. If someone really loved someone else, they aren't going to let something like not being permitted to marry stop them from being together. If religious people want to have their "clubhouse marriage" where they "marry under God" or whatever, I don't see how that's any different from any other group, organisation, sect, cult, etc... having their own idea of what marriage is and having a similar ceremony or none at all. I don't have a shred of a problem with them doing that, but I do have a problem when a group that has a particular ideology of their own "clubhouse rules on marriage" who want to have it applied universally to everyone, even if others are not part of the club, nor invited or eligible, nor want to be part of it. * Again, apart from state benefits, which each party should be entitled to receive