Ok, to begin I'll start with the obvious. Yes, I need advice. Yes, I'm an idiot for coming to b.net for that advice. But in all honesty, I need opinions from different people. And even if they're bad, I should get a laugh out of them, knowing b.net. But now to business...
I'm in love with a lesbian. I've felt like this for around 3 months. I've told my family, who give good advice, but mostly don't get the fact that she's lesbian. They usually say "Ask her out anyway", but if I did that I'd look like a fool. The one friend I've told gives terrible advice, and usually does nothing other than piss me off with his stupid comments. I feel like I should tell her, but it feels so different to just telling any random girl you like her. If I tell her, I know there's absolutely no chance of us ever being together, which means there's 2 possibilities.
- She accepts it and continues to be my friend and act the same
- She finds it difficult to accept and things become awkward between us
That second possibility is the one I worry about. Knowing her, she would be very kind about it and she would most definitely want to stay friends. But I really think things will become awkward, and she won't do things like hug me or hold me every now and then, which makes me feel so amazing.
Next week I have 4 days alone with her, which I look forward to. But my life has been pretty depressing for the past 3 months, and I think telling her might ease the pain. I'm torn between whether I should do it during those 4 days or not. This is where you guys come in. What do you think I should do? This doesn't necessarily mean whether or not I should tell her, if you have any other advice that may be useful it would be much appreciated.
TL;DR
I'm in love with a lesbian and don't know how to deal with it. What do?
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Ask her if she's lesbian or bi. Then ask if she'd ever go out with a guy. If she says no. Then give up because she's never going to go out with you.