Ok, to begin I'll start with the obvious. Yes, I need advice. Yes, I'm an idiot for coming to b.net for that advice. But in all honesty, I need opinions from different people. And even if they're bad, I should get a laugh out of them, knowing b.net. But now to business...
I'm in love with a lesbian. I've felt like this for around 3 months. I've told my family, who give good advice, but mostly don't get the fact that she's lesbian. They usually say "Ask her out anyway", but if I did that I'd look like a fool. The one friend I've told gives terrible advice, and usually does nothing other than piss me off with his stupid comments. I feel like I should tell her, but it feels so different to just telling any random girl you like her. If I tell her, I know there's absolutely no chance of us ever being together, which means there's 2 possibilities.
- She accepts it and continues to be my friend and act the same
- She finds it difficult to accept and things become awkward between us
That second possibility is the one I worry about. Knowing her, she would be very kind about it and she would most definitely want to stay friends. But I really think things will become awkward, and she won't do things like hug me or hold me every now and then, which makes me feel so amazing.
Next week I have 4 days alone with her, which I look forward to. But my life has been pretty depressing for the past 3 months, and I think telling her might ease the pain. I'm torn between whether I should do it during those 4 days or not. This is where you guys come in. What do you think I should do? This doesn't necessarily mean whether or not I should tell her, if you have any other advice that may be useful it would be much appreciated.
TL;DR
I'm in love with a lesbian and don't know how to deal with it. What do?
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Edited by Chaz: 5/10/2013 5:30:37 PMAre you two as good as married in your mind?
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Just tell her something along the lines of: "Look, I don't want to make things weird or put you in an awkward position, but since you're my friend I thought I needed to tell you. I have feelings for your beyond our friendship, which I know you probably can't reciprocate, but I wanted to get that off my chest. It's been killing me wondering what to say to you or even if I should say anything at all. I don't want this to change anything between us, because I still care about you as a friend too."
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Wait......DO I KNOW YOU?!
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Keep it to yourself. It will become awkward if she knows you are pining over her. How could it not be?
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Get a sex change.
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Maybe she's bi or tri Try slipping your hand under her skirt. If you end up in jail, then at least you know I think that if you are a girl then it's not a problem Maybe you should have a sex change operation :/
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Been there!!!! First of all..Never be afraid to tell or show yer feelings no matter WHAT anyone else says. First and foremost she is your frend right?? You should be able to tell yer frend anything even if it is uncomfortable What this boils down to is HOW you decide to tell her. If you want the right words ask Recon Number 54 (He is as SMOOTH as silk with words. But they won't be yers.can't gaurentee he'll help LOL) Second: Women, Lesbian or not have an AMAZING sense that Men don't have. Chances are she may know already, but doesn't want to lose yer frendship Third: I hope you know she probably won't change her outlook on what Gender she prefers Fourth: this is YOUR issue not hers. If you do decide to tell her. Her decision or comments to follow ARE NOT WRONG Fifth: Whatever the final outcome is? you need to live with it. It'll be tuff but you'll live to see another day Be happy that the two of you enjoy each others company
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Plot twist, your gay now.
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Hey.. I know the feeling sort of.. I sort of know a Lesbian that I wanted to rock her world. It stinks knowing many fine ladies out there are lesbian, because I basically see them as off-limits you know?
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[quote]- She accepts it and continues to be my friend and act the same - She finds it difficult to accept and things become awkward between us[/quote] One thing I don't think you're realizing here... YOU are the one who needs to accept things. Not her.
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tell her how you feel and get rejected that is actually my advice; i think you'll feel better about it after she goes all "bro i'm not interested in you"
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Seriously though, you gotta get over it. The sooner you do, the better for everyone.
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Love is a curious game. The only winning move is not to play.
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Ugh, seriously? Thats an awkward thing, if she is a good friend tell her, and get over it.
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Get vaginoplasty and a tit job. Problem solved!
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Stop being in love.
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My wife is self-proclaimed about 85% gay. At least from what she says, she goes through periods in her life where she is more attracted to women and then goes back to being attracted to men more, back and forth. So said girl might be going through same thing. If she likes the taste of the D, even a little, you still have a chance.
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Ask her out. From what I read in your post, she'll like that you confessed at least, and if she shoots you down, stay as friends. If not, and she asks you to sleep with her, or something, work your way from there. I'm not going to give advice about sex.
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Do you know for sure that she isn't bi?
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Have a sex change.
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Eat her heart and liver so that you can become one.
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How good of friends are you two? that'll likely have a big impact on how she takes it, and how things go
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Ask her if she's lesbian or bi. Then ask if she'd ever go out with a guy. If she says no. Then give up because she's never going to go out with you.
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How long has she been an exclusive lesbian for?
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Stick it in her pooper.
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inb4 stick it in her pooper