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3/20/2013 12:37:12 PM
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Be honest... (image may be unsettling)
Are you horrified? Do you want to look away?
There was just an ad on TV for a program about a burn victim, missing a large part of her nose. I... am quite freaked out by such things. Why wouldn't I be? I'd never say that to the person, of course, and I don't feel good about not wanting to look at them. But I just don't want to.
I assume I'm not the only one who feels that way. I don't encourage people to shun burn victims or otherwise scarred or malformed people, I just wanted to share how I feel. =/
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It's out of the norm and grotesque. I don't mean to insult the poor girl, but you cannot lie that it is a gruesome sight. I'd feel a little uncomfortable. It is just something that you don't see everyday and it can be shocking. I would probably look away at first but I would collect myself quickly and talk to her like a normal person. I wouldn't want her feel like a freak. I'm sure she knows that her appearance may shock a majority of people.
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Poor girl :,(
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That's a shame, and pretty unsettling. If I were to meet her in person, I wouldn't shun her or ignore her more than I'd normally ignore someone else.
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Just wear a hood like the elephant man and we all win.
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Its not something I would want to stare at, but its not something that make me want to turn away.
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It's not a pretty sight, but nothing so hideous as to disturb me or cast my vision away.
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Doesn't bother me. Anything physical is hardly the fault of the person affected, and they're still the same person - physical appearance doesn't change who they are. They'll be aware of the impact their outward appearance may have on others, and may even understand it, but if you can just get to the fact that they have excessive scarring due to trauma to their skin, its really not that freaky. Lass got burned - it happens. Carry on as per
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my face when
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I feel horrible for wanting to look away from her.
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my reaction
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That person looks a little unsettling, but I'm not rustled enough to look away.
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I am afraid that if I ever saw her I'd be nervous.
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8 RepliesTo all the people claiming not to care at all, bullshit. I am not trying to be horrible to the person, and of course if I met them I would not tell them how I feel, but it is an evolutionary response. I'm not saying I want to be freaked out, but it would definitely be the case, and it would be for pretty much the rest of you. Stop trying to look a better person on the Internet.
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Edited by DarkSpyda04: 3/20/2013 7:17:44 PMI was more horrified when you suggested I'd be horrified, in which case I would've stopped myself from looking at the image but I did anyway and when the image openned up, I kept staring. I feel sorry for her having to look like that in front of people but whatcha gonna do when shit happens?
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How the hell was that offending?
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1 ReplyJOSEFINA!
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I wouldn't be horrified, just curious. Then I wouldn't care.
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nope. i'm perfectly comfortable with looking at her.
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Not horrified, but I do feel empathy. If I were face-to-face with this individual, it would take me a moment of looking at their face to know where to look when speaking to them (it appears that they may have some optical function in their left eye). Other than that, the conversation would be whatever the conversation was supposed to be about or whatever it needed to be about (like them asking me directions to the mall). But examining the face of another is a very human thing. We stare at those we consider beautiful and find those moments to be pleasant (even if we're slightly embarrassed when we're caught staring). I see the burns, the scars, but I also see what appear to be patches and transplants. Everyone's face tells a story, this persons story can be hard for some to read or to handle. But it's still a person inside, and beauty is only skin deep. The only way to know who is "in there" is (much like with anyone else, regardless of their face) to talk with them, listen to them, find out if they are cool, or uncool, pleasant or irritating, friendly or unfriendly, bitter or cheerful... and so on. That face may give anyone a moment of "what do I do and where do I look?" but those moments are short especially when you reach the person.
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1 ReplyEdited by Spooter: 3/20/2013 12:53:27 PMIf I were to sit down and talk to her, I would of course be curious, maybe I'd ask about what happened if she didn't mind... but would I be disgusted, freak out, horrified? Not at all. Appearances are just that, appearances. I'm just very accepting and courteous to people with really any physical or mental (such as retardation, memory loss, etc.) features/disabilities.
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I kinda feel the same way you do. I can't help it.
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It's sad, but not horrifying.
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Okay, thats disgusting.
