I know this is the Flood, but I decided to as you guys since I really care about you guys:
I'm fed up with this girl. It's been almost a year and she's a complete flirt. We get really close to the point where we talk about "you know" (explicit detail on how we do our "thing"). She says she really trusts me and we are good friends. I felt like I was friendzoned before, so I stopped talking to her for a couple of months.
about 3 weeks ago I came back but with more flirtatious and direct intentions. I touched her a lot, we hung out with friends and we started dancing and she was basically was dancing on top of me (it was a lot of fun), and we flirted through chat. (she later said she wasn't flirting, WTF).
She knows I'm into her, but I don't know if she truly is into me. She is really shy around the guys she wants to date and usually doesn't talk to them, but she is not like that with me. I'm recently separating from her again because I can't deal with it. The urge to be with her is too much for my own good.
I was thinking of just telling her straight up whether or not she likes me/ wants to be with me or be FWB (friends with benefits), but I heard that that kind of assertiveness scares girls away. What should I do? Should I get some closure and most likely get turned down, but then move on (expect the worst, hope for the best). Or, should I try and approach this some other way?
Also, when I would grab her around the waist or put my arm around her/rub her neck and shoulders, she didn't pull away unless someone brought it up and it became awkward or unless I left my arm there for too long. However, I know that she likes attention, so maybe that is all she is after?!
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After a year, I don't know... When the moment is right, aks if you can kiss her? (eye contact and all that so that she will know you;re serious) If shes like, "no" - then w/e.
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Haha...I've been through something similar. I only got out of it by stepping over boundaries and meeting swift justice...at least I got over it. So, go hard or go home and cry forever.
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Drop this one dude. She seems like she only wants the attention you provide her. After a year, if she had any feelings for you, she would've made a move herself. Otherwise, force her hand. Make a move. Ask her out on a legit date, no friends, or kiss her, full on.
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Grow a -blam!-ing pair kiss her or something make a real move! If she ain't into it -blam!- it and move on life is too short to play dumbarse games.
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Just ignore her, girls hate being ignored and they go crazy :P
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Edited by GribbyMcGrub: 12/26/2014 1:36:02 PM[Expunged]
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fhritp[spoiler]( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) [/spoiler]
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Go for it Just get it out and if it doesn't help you can punch FrostyGardevoir IN THE FACE With a Sledgehammer
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Hit it homie
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Ask her out dammit and stick it in her pooper If not Use toast/envelope
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Nah, you need to tell her what you want. It's been a year, like come on. Girls who lead on guys and continue to flirt with them are only in it for attention and self-esteem. Sorry to say. Overall, tell her what you want from her. Guys don't like to be around a tease for too long, sure it's fun and all, but soon you gotta give in.
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Toast/envelope
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Depends on what you want. A lasting relationship or something else..
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( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) Just use this face and you two will be in bed tonight. [spoiler]ayy lmao #yolo #sweg[/spoiler]
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Gotta be up front. If you want to hook up with her, tell her that. If you want to date her, ask her out. If she says no move on to the next girl. Don't let a chick dick you around, and don't dick a chick around unless you want drama, be up front and there wont be any confusion between what you want and what she wants.
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Oh man don't get "little brother" zoned BROZONED
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This seems very date raepy
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I would say just forget about her and even if you tried FWB it just wouldn't work because if you like someone and you do that I mean you're just gonna get really attached and from reading this she just doesn't seem to feel the same way
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Talk. Say it. Yeah. You know. Sounds to me she's not sure about it being serious, or she doesn't know what to do. Could very easily be the latter, [i]very[/i].
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I'd have to go for it what if you don't and miss ur chance on something great
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Cut your dick off and give it to hrr
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Alright...I'm a very flirtatious chick, so I think I can help you out here. Talk. To. Her. Seriously. She probably doesn't know what she wants right now, but by talking to her, you'll get her really thinking serious about things. Then you have decisions to make. Can you still be friends if you're not fooling around? Would you be ok with just fooling around and no relationship? Keep in mind that if you do go for the relationship, it doesn't mean the flirting with others will stop. No matter how much attention you give her. It's not bc she's not into you...it's just her personality. As long as you keep open and honest communication, it will be all good.
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Hahahaha
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Edited by Seanonix: 12/26/2014 5:37:07 AMHave you ever been completely alone with her, like at her place or yours? You will be able to talk to her about it then. That's what I recommend.
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Two in the pink, one in the stink. [spoiler]seriously just ask her what she wants. Women are stupid[/spoiler]
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Toast/envelope