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Edited by farah: 3/15/2022 9:57:52 PM
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How do you deal with your fellow Guardian’s death in real life?

Hi guys, and Bungie. I’d like to tell you about my friend, who was a wonderful person and one of the best and most skilled Guardians I’ve ever known. His name was Stepan aka Kabc and he’s been a dedicated player for years. We met in the game almost 2 years ago and spent countless hours playing Crucible together. He taught me a lot about how to be a better player and listened to me whenever I needed it. Unfortunately, yesterday he passed away (03/14). Also it was my dad’s birthday, so I definitely won’t forget it. He lived in Russia, and current situation in the country is very unstable because of the war against Ukraine. The problems of the past few weeks have taken their toll on everybody’s mental and physical health. It also intensified Stepan’s chronic issues with blood pressure. He was sleep deprived, stressed out and wanted to find a way out and support his family. Still, all this time he continued to play Destiny 2 and helped others with new activities. The most heartbreaking thing is that he was about to leave Russia for a new job and then just.. collapsed. Stepan was the kindest soul and always liked to help people with Trials, competitive Crucible and raids. And in life, too. That’s how I met him as well. I’ve never met anyone with such a pure and kind heart: honest, modest, sweet and loyal. I’m writing this with tears in my eyes because I want something to be left here as some kind of memory. He played the game till his last day. I’ve been playing Destiny since 2014 and met a lot of friends there, most of them are my closest friends now. And Stepan was one of the best among them. I met him, became his friend and fell in love with him thanks to Destiny 2. I hope I will find strength to continue to play Destiny, even though it seems pointless now and only brings pain without Stepan there: without a single way to see his character or his online status, just a tiny thing to imagine he’s still there, crunching cookies at his desk while in orbit. I wish we had custom statuses in the game or custom emblems for situations like this, or could search for characters and look at their last loadouts. Just to be with our loved ones in the imaginary world that brought us together. The game that only brought happiness now only brings pain. I don’t know how to deal with that pain. See you on the other side, my dear friend. I loved you so much.

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  • To all the guardians who have lost their loved ones: your love is beyond beautiful, and I know that those you have lost loved you just as much. Keep pushing though life, those you’ve lost are watching from the path afterlife, and they would be so proud of you.

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  • I'm someone that's picked up many unofficial clan members over the years. We all play together across different games pretty exclusively. Thought about making it an official clan a few times, but... Too much work, too much focus on recruitment, rather just let it be a group of friends that gets added to when we run into more people of like mind. That being said, I too, have lost someone recently. And I didn't find out until nearly a month later. My friend Kurru, who I won't share her real name here, passed away on the 7th of February. She had hurt her leg, which brought her into the hospital. Several weeks later and she gets released to her home, looking forward to it. However, she would go on to pass away in her sleep. That fact gives me some comfort in it. But she passed due to a blood clot. Which I'm sure was caused by the leg injury, and probably went hidden, undiagnosed. She's not the first friend I've lost, but she is a first for me in our group of friends. We played many games together, literally all the time. And when we weren't gaming, we were chatting on Telegram or in an Xbox Party. She was one of my very few I'd consider a best friend, and in that? She was the first best friend I'd ever lost. So I did what I did, in Minecraft I moved her house and in place of it, created a monument for her. In Warframe I've been completing the Dojo, things left unfinished. In Sea of Thieves I've been flying her favorite flag, ect. ect. Do what you need to in order to mourn. What helps me is knowing she's in a place better then this world. I'm not exactly religious per-say, but I like to hold the belief that there is something better then this world afterwards. The simple thought helps. Just remember he's always in your heart, in your memories. Celebrate the good that came. Mourn in your own time, in your own ways, when you need to. But also remember the good times, the fun times, never forget the impact they've made on your life in the time they were a part of it. There are many ways to deal with loss, it's not easy, especially the closer the person was to you. But, [i]it will get better.[/i] Just keep that in mind, my friend. Remember the good, mourn when you need to, keep their memory alive in your heart.

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    • I struggle with the death of family and friends everyday. It’s a battle, just gotta keep pushing.

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    • Lost a close group of clan friends...still alive, but after D1 still feeling less engaged to make new friends. But after losing both parents in few years, I really started to think more about those times with old clan. And the way people made me laugh to forget the lossen and fun time overall

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    • Edited by ZeroCool: 3/17/2022 2:31:29 AM
      A member of my fireteam passed on, it was hard and tough. I felt and cried for an individual I've never met in real life. This individual I've woken up with at 1 AM during OG resets to knock out Nightfalls, stayed up to 2AM to finish raids. Everyday we texted, met up in partychat, talked BS and took on the Darkness. Then one day, he was gone, leaving just the two of us. It was never the same afterwards and me an the other simply went our different ways. All I can say is remember them when you play Destiny. My friend passed on right before the release of, The Pit of Hearesy. So, during that time, I would Solo The Pit and right before the final boss, I would use a "sit" emote and just reflect about my Homie. I'm soloing dangerous dungeons alone and all for him. In some weird way, I've rationalized playing Destiny for HIM and that somehow when I do play, he's watching, like a Streamer, but from beyond. Today, I still do, Soloing the rest of the Destiny days. ...just know this, you've experienced the best Destiny has to offer, the friendships it has created and with a fireteam member passing, you've come full circle, a grizzled Destiny Veteran who has been there and done that.

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    • Some people find acceptance in Tragedy by turning it into Comedy. Try cracking a joke with a memory of him.

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      • Rest in Peace Guardian.

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      • [quote]Hi guys, and Bungie. I’d like to tell you about my friend, who was a wonderful person and one of the best and most skilled Guardians I’ve ever known. His name was Stepan aka Kabc and he’s been a dedicated player for years. We met in the game almost 2 years ago and spent countless hours playing Crucible together. He taught me a lot about how to be a better player and listened to me whenever I needed it. Unfortunately, yesterday he passed away (03/14). Also it was my dad’s birthday, so I definitely won’t forget it. He lived in Russia, and current situation in the country is very unstable because of the war against Ukraine. The problems of the past few weeks have taken their toll on everybody’s mental and physical health. It also intensified Stepan’s chronic issues with blood pressure. He was sleep deprived, stressed out and wanted to find a way out and support his family. Still, all this time he continued to play Destiny 2 and helped others with new activities. The most heartbreaking thing is that he was about to leave Russia for a new job and then just.. collapsed. Stepan was the kindest soul and always liked to help people with Trials, competitive Crucible and raids. And in life, too. That’s how I met him as well. I’ve never met anyone with such a pure and kind heart: honest, modest, sweet and loyal. I’m writing this with tears in my eyes because I want something to be left here as some kind of memory. He played the game till his last day. I’ve been playing Destiny since 2014 and met a lot of friends there, most of them are my closest friends now. And Stepan was one of the best among them. I met him, became his friend and fell in love with him thanks to Destiny 2. I hope I will find strength to continue to play Destiny, even though it seems pointless now and only brings pain without Stepan there: without a single way to see his character or his online status, just a tiny thing to imagine he’s still there, crunching cookies at his desk while in orbit. I wish we had custom statuses in the game or custom emblems for situations like this, or could search for characters and look at their last loadouts. Just to be with our loved ones in the imaginary world that brought us together. The game that only brought happiness now only brings pain. I don’t know how to deal with that pain. See you on the other side, my dear friend. I loved you so much.[/quote] You just deal with it, you’re going to lose lots of friends and family in your life There is right or wrong way to Grieve Move on Deal with the loss Time is the great healer, sucks, but that’s the way it is Sorry

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        • Every guardian eventually will take their final rez. Rest in peace. Remember him when you need the uplift, remember what he would tell you to bring you up. Recite it in your head, in your heart, and in your voice. Then become that guiding factor for another so that his legacy can live on through you, and then hopefully to another after you, and on, and on... Eyes up, Guardian.

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        • sad

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        • No one really dies whilst there is at least one person alive to remember them. Sorry for your loss.

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        • I'm so sorry for your loss. Last January I lost a very close friend due to covid and the world feels so much darker without him. It doesn't get any easier, the pain will always be there, but life grows around it and you learn to keep your head above the water when the grief comes knocking again. What helps is to talk about it with people that knew him. Share memories and remember the good times. He wouldn't want you to stop playing Destiny when it brought you so close together. Stay strong, guardian 💪

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        • Edited by LikwiD_SmOkE22: 3/16/2022 2:06:29 PM
          Honestly I couldn't imagine.. I've met a lot of chill people playing this game who I'm lucky to call a friend. Some people find it odd that's just because they probably don't game. I have buddies on my friends list that I chat with every once & awhile that I met playing cod black ops so were talking over 10 years of friendship. I'm sorry for your loss. I will keep you & your friends family in my prayers.

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        • Eyes up guardian Trudged through the darkness no matter the weight of the chains you carry. Use their light as a torch to guide your way, and bring those you find along with you [spoiler]life's about what you leave behind, don't let's theirs be wasted Sorry for your loss[/spoiler]

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          • Only when forgotten are we truly dead. The experiences we make with friends, family, and acquaintances will live on in our memories. Find solace in the fact they are with you through memory and heart.

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          • Deepest condolence and thoughts for your friend. May light guide his way wherever he is.

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          • A beautiful tribute to a great friend. Rest in Peace Stepan.

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          • Its always difficult for the ones they leave behind,you have to talk about them and remember the good times and feel lucky for the time you spent together.

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          • Sorry for your loss fellow guardian. Keep your head up! Sending prayers your way

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          • "Eyes up Guardian". That's how you deal with it. Stand up and keep moving. The pain will never go away fully, but it will dim enough that you'll be able to live with it.

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          • You can see his stats here and on Time Wasted on Destiny. My condolences on the loss of your friend.

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          • Sorry for your lost friend. The way you honor him is remembrance and tribute that way they live on forever its how we cope and move forward with grief and loss. I'm sure he was a good friend and an amazing guardian. I always drink and poor one for the homies living and deceased.

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          • Rest in peace guardian.

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          • Sorry for your loss. [spoiler]You might wanna move this to #Destiny2 as OffTopic doesn’t really like Destiny…[/spoiler]

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