After coming on 11 months since I was dumped, and sufficiently recovered from the Sol debacle, I think I might be ready to start looking again.
I’m enjoying single life and single money, but I think it might be better to have someone to do things with, to grow alongside, and to hold.
I’m honestly a little scared of how much I miss the physical parts of being in a relationship. Tho I am in my twenties. So it tracks…
To all two people out here who are still cheering for me and Sol. Thank you. I appreciate your desire for that to end happily, but I think it already did. I’ve rebuilt my life after getting it turned upside down. I grew a lot as a person, and I have a greater understanding of self sacrifice.
I still feel like crying about it sometimes, but only if I tell the story again.
I don’t have any particular person in mind to pursue, but I’m resolved not to choose someone for the sake of having someone.
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Praying for you buddy, I’m always here if you need to talk
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Gotta find my boy hoth a rasputia kinda gf. Hoth needs some powerful love in his life. I bet he likes to be smothered by largeness too
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hey even if you don’t end up with Sol(but I hope you do) I wish you luck out there
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Edited by SparkleGuy: 11/23/2021 3:27:08 PMI wish you luck in finding [b][i] T H E O N E[/i][/b] I’m also glad to see that you’ve learned. I can relate to that in some sense
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I have next to zero experience with relationships. Only been in two so far, but both only lasted about a month. Also doesn't help I moved a lot and have aspergers. One was when I was a new kid in 6th grade when one girl seemed to like me for some reason. Ended due to a lack of communication, especially since neither of us had phones yet. Second one was a similar scenario, I was the new kid in 8th grade and a girl in PE liked me for some reason. I think she may have had a few screws loose because she decided to "fl@sh" (censoring part of it just to be safe) me at one point when I originally thought it meant a selfie or something. I immediately broke all contact with her just to process what the hell just happened. Looking back, I think there were some red flags for a potentially toxic relationship prior such as her tone of voice and behavior around me sounding like she wanted my attention a lot. Fast forward to today, I've had no luck making friends at all while my brother (who's younger than me) has a gf and they've gotten along well for about two-three years now. Everyone makes finding friends look stupid easy and I can't even keep a simple conversation going, even if I do get one going it goes nowhere regardless. Seeing everyone else having friends in general makes me feel like an outsider.
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[quote]I’m enjoying single life and single money, but I think it might be better to have someone to do things with, to grow alongside, and to hold. I’m honestly a little scared of how much I miss the physical parts of being in a relationship. Tho I am in my twenties. So it tracks… .....but I’m resolved not to choose someone for the sake of having someone.[/quote] I understand what you're saying, but I'll just throw this out there... The physical parts of a relationship are the motivator, it can be a hollow, bottomless hole that is never filled. So it's good that you acknowledge that now.