Edit - wow. Read tags late. Whatever though. I'll leave my reply as is. I suggest saying "here " ::hand over your cell #:: "Since you prefer using your phone over talking, send me a text. " Then get up, walk away, and don't talk to the dude afterwards. I bet he will end up texting you. Then, you'll really see what's up with the guy. People who aren't social can express themselves easier through text . [spoiler] One of my conversation starters with a chick at work who really didn't talk was "Hey...you ever just sit there and wonder about the big picture? Forget being a daughter, a girlfriend or wife, a sibling , forget being you for a second...and just think...We're all a droplet of water hitting a gigantic body of water, hoping our ripples affect it somehow. This body of water is enormous. It stretches as far as we can imagine. Yet here we are at work, fiddling with our phones...like it all matters somehow." Chick looked at me for an entire minute before saying . "Damn. I thought I was weird." After that though, we had a lot of cool conversations. Then shit got awkward. Now it's annoying to even be near the computer we clock in or clock out with. [/spoiler]