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6/5/2017 5:21:39 PM
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Getting married / having kids at a "young" age
Personally I think it is after getting to know a woman more who married when she was 16 and gave birth when she was 18.
Divorced at 20 and only enrolled in Uni / got employed part time at the age of 24.
She realies heavily on support from her family and told me personally her life's been a struggle, fair enough but I hate how she doesn't think it's partly her fault
(or maybe she knows it but she's too proud to admit it)
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Edited by Spartan 22O: 6/6/2017 6:27:42 PMI don't think it's smart to have kids if you're not in a stable [i]marriage[/i]. I don't think it's possible to have a stable marriage at a "young age," with exceptions of course, let alone at all. It seems marriage is slipping in America, and it's costing our kids, especially black kids.
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If you're financially stable and happy with your partner, go crazy. 16 is probs a [i]little[/i] too early however.
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Well when your younger your hotter. (Creepy young doesn't count as young it counts as it's own category called "Brat")
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I'd say it depends highly on how long the couple has been together, and their financial situation. For example, I'm getting married in 2 months, and we're both 24 years old, but I also own a house, have a secure career, and have been with her for a little over 6 years. If I were still in college without the means to take care of us financially, having a place to live, or the trust of a fairly long-term relationship, I'd consider it much too soon. As for having kids, having them earlier is probably better for the child if the parents are emotionally and financially capable, and prepared, to do so, since the generational gap isn't as wide and common ground would be easier to come across. However, finding younger couples that are ready for kids is rare, in my opinion.
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1 ReplyThings are expensive. Housing. School. Food. Young people these days need to do more with their dollar, and it's worth less than our parents' dollars were. Getting married young is whatever, it doesn't necessarily cost a lot, but having a kid does. The average cost of having a child is a quarter-million dollars over 18 years. I don't know about you, but I can't afford that kind of investment, and I'd assume someone who is under 20 probably can't, either. So having kids young is stupid, yes.
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well my parents got married at 19, tho the drinking age was 18 so that was cool they didn't have kids until their 30s which meant they had time to run around and be young a dumb wait till at least 25 no sense in bringing a kid into the world you cant take care of
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1 ReplyNope, wait until you are at least 26. Hives you time to get through college, have some fun, and do some growing up
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You shouldn't make any big decisions like that until you're 21, at least. Even then, you should spend a year or so thinking about if that's really what you want. This isn't just for marriage/children either - I would recommend the same for leaving a job, applying for a job (in some cases), becoming religious, changing religion, becoming atheist, leaving the country, leaving the planet, joining the army, getting ordained, and becoming a supernatural entity.
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I got married when I was 29. Although we had been together for about 6 years by then, we wanted to wait until we were both established career-wise and financially. It'll be 2 years in August and we don't have kids yet but I guess we like to wait on these things until we're ready.
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1 ReplyI personally think 26 is a good age to get married.
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22 RepliesEdited by Esko: 6/6/2017 2:49:31 AMI mean, I'm never going to find someone to marry and I refuse to own a child so it doesn't really bother me
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Edited by LahDsai: 6/6/2017 5:34:59 AMWorks out for a select few, but it's not a good idea for most.
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The greatest prophet of them all married someone very young. Don't worry though, he waited until she was 13 to consume. Muhammad was so wise and we can learn so much from their DIVERSE AND TOLERANT culture.
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Very good idea, especially for girls since they have a biological clock ticking down. Also better for raising kids in general in terms of the energy you'll have not just the biological factors. One reason the West is slowly dying is we're pushing back and back the age we have children if at all. What you're describing the are the consequences of making poor life choices in selecting who to have children with, not what age to have them.
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I'm ??, recently married with 14 year relationship experience, and I plan to have one 👶 on the way soon. Money is irrelevant when you chose live a virtuous lifestyle. Only concern to start a family when it comes to human beans is the medicine and the care. That's pretty much it. Almost all of the families married young around 17 to 29 and we provided support to each other unless dire circumstance forbid it. As for millennials, never start a family in the city or near one. Having connections with your relatives also help a bunch.
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Parents had me when they were 16. Big positive is you kinda share the generation and the age gap is much easier to deal with.
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3 RepliesDepends on way too many things to give a definitive answer.
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It is her fault. Kids come with responsibility.
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My parents were mid 20s when they married and had myself and my 2 siblings by 30
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My mom married at 21 which is pretty young for most people, my dad was 34 for though so idk
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Depends on the situation. If it's completely spur of the moment decisions then yeah, of course it's a bad idea. But if it's thought through, if they have the resources to care for a child, if they can stay together long-term after getting married young, then there's no problem with it. My grandparents married when they were 18, and stayed married their entire lives. My dad, on the other hand, got married at 18 and divorced her a few years later.
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It's only really a bad idea if it's not thought out and planned properly. My wife and I are only 20/21 - we kinda want kids but not just yet, another couple of years we're gonna wait until then. However one way we see it is that if you have kids in your early to mid twenties then when you have grandkids you'll actually have the energy to look after them and chase after them and such...
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I'm waiting till after i finish college to have a Cartis Jr. (I'd rather have a boy). I want to be a bit more financially steady before i bring a child into the world. It wouldn't be fair to the child to raise them in an environment where i can't support them well. It may be the best of my ability, but to me i want my kid to have more than my best. Just how i am.
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In this day and age I'd say it isn't the best idea to jump straight into marriage and kids. You can certainly make it work, that is if you are willing to put in the work, unfortunately with the rate of single mothers, at least in the US, it seems not many are.
