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Let's start from the beginning, because that's usually a good place to start. As I've been talking to my closer group of friends on Bungie.net, we all came to the realization that we aren't all that active here anymore. Whether it be a new website that we now occupy, or a new walk of life, or just simple boredom, we've all drifted away from this place together.
So, this brings us into a predicament. As many of you have known, or are now just realizing, friendships are both a matter of compatibility and convenience. Obviously, you wouldn't be someone's friend if you have different interests, or they're an enormous dick smooch. But what about availability? If you had a great friend in elementary school that you haven't spoken to in 10 years, are they still your friend, or practically a stranger?
If you don't have a mode to keep in touch with people, or a circumstance that brings you together, you drift apart. Schools are a great example, because everybody's had a school friend that they talked to during class, but never hung out with outside of class, then once you don't have classes together anymore, you never say another word to each other ever again.
So, approaching my 10th anniversary on this site, with great friends, how do I avoid this problem? My interest has been dwindling for a year, and it's not going to turn around now. So how do I keep my friends here relevant enough to dodge "acquaintancehood," for a lack of a better term?
For me, gaming is our shared interest, so I'll continue talking to the people that play games with me. At least, until I buy Battlefield and the buy Call of Duty, we sit in our parties with the groups that play the same game, while chatting a bit in between, until it becomes less frequent and we have another name to scratch off the board.
We could find a new, shiny, internet haven to call our own, but some will obviously repent, as happened with Sep7agon, so we can scratch a few people off that way too.
At the end of the day, there's really only one option that I've considered that may actually work. But it'll be work.
I don't want to work. I just want to bang on my drum all day.
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Edited by Pacmaniac11: 8/2/2016 4:20:52 PMI know how you feel. Years ago, I was best friends with a girl in kindergarten (ridiculous right?) and after the school year, she moved. We never forgot each other but times did change and I had no way to keep in touch. Just a week ago, I met her for the first time in 8 years at a high school orientation. Of course we were happy to see each other and found we had a lot in common. I guess I made the mistake of liking her but she has a boyfriend now. So all of these emotions are building up inside of me and I don't know how to let them go. Part of me thinks it's my fault but I know it was just bad luck. I know I can't keep dwelling on the past but our friendship was so strong back then, I just don't know how to let go. What do you think I should do?