I've been in the exact same situation as you, like EXACT.... even down to having a female warlock, which is scary... I used to just try to stick with my familiar raiding team as best I could, even with studying accountancy and two thirds of our group being from 3 separate timezones, I found I managed to play the raid at least 3 times a week in order to collect rewards. I'm talking from 5+ month ago now though, my group disbanded and only really been able to play PoE since :P But from the sounds of it, the disrespect is just as bad as ever :/