For those of you who are mad that there is sexism in raids then there is a easy solution. Since I have seen that more guys play destiny then girls I suggest a solution. Since the OP and most people have mics and many people are sexist let the Bf of the relationship put his mic on first but the gf later unless it is a requirement for the raid team. If they ask who it is say what you want to say. IF the raid group starts hitting, being rude, or they are unbearable then either leave or take hits. BUT just make sure at all costs that your relationship is not broken apart by a VIDEO GAME.