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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • While you do have a point (in a way, you're reaching greatly with what you define as actual sexism), you act like sexism doesn't exist towards men, in many facets of life it can be even greater than sexism towards women. Women receive things for free in the form of specials at restaurants and bars (if a bar had a dude's night and every guy that comes in got a free shot, feminists would lose their minds and riot), they receive free forms of healthcare, are more likely to be approved for certain healthcare subsidies, can receive special federal funding for school not available to men, with no corresponding funding even existing. They also serve shorter prison sentences for the exact same crime, so how is that equality they are fighting for going? Oh, that's right, they just want equality in all the positive parts of life, but when it comes to not having special grants, healthcare and preferential treatment in the eyes of the judicial system they don't want anything to change. Maybe it's time to open your mind and realize you're as big a part of the problem as every misogynistic asshole out there.

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    • Oh cry me a river

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    • It's pure immaturity.

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    • Nothing new, lfg is filled with assholes.

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    • Life lesson #1 women have a va-jj and pretty much do what they want. However I have run into many groups were I have to give in a thesis on why I should be allowed to play with them. Life lesson #2 everyone on here is a tough guy and will say anything to get a rise outta ya. I think it's great that u and it old lady(don't tell her I said that) play this game together, gender and color blindness in gaming is something we should all work towards. We, as gamers, do a better job at it then society in general, don't care if you are an albino midget hermaphridite with hang nails and one eye. If you can help my team out, ur in! Also any Yankee or Knick fan has a free spot

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    • Edited by SanctifiedN7: 5/9/2016 1:23:24 PM
      Feminism, Sexism, Racism. Etcetc. Strong words for weak minded meats. Plus i am guessing you are an american and mostly play with them. That's another sad sorry factor right there. Or just like those useless walking sacks of watter that use those words you just crave attention and lie.

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      • We and my wife play daily, (all content) have a clan with dudes and some females, more and welcome to add we on ps4

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      • A lot of virgins out there bro.

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        I see this a lot and mainly because of the young player base(I'm young too but I'm not an ass) I play with lots of randoms with girlfriend that join and if someone is an ass to them, they get the boot. Same with my friends gf, someone is an ass they get the boot.

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      • Take a read at the comments. They say a lot about the overall age/mindset of our community.

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        • Not justifying anything, just saying...women are sexist too. This is a game, I wish people would just chill and help each other out, that is the best part of Destiny.

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          • Edited by WiLDRoCKeR334: 5/9/2016 7:14:12 AM
            Sexism can happen both ways. I had a girl whined about everyone died, but literally no one ever died except her lol. She wasn't even paying attention to wtf she was doing, which is why she kept dying. I told her to calmly focus of the raid. She said quote. "-blam!-, my heels are bigger then your dick." My getto side was unleashed and I said, "Bitch, my Jordan's are cleaner than your puss[i]y[/i]."

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            • [quote]Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. [/quote] For the same reasons women get free drinks, get to go into the "full" club while you wait outside, get told yes while you're told no, men give them bigger tips, etc... It's how the real world works. Women are treated differently and most of them embrace it and use it to their advantage. Get to used to it...

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              • everyone is a -blam!-ing victim nowadays. Shut the -blam!- up and play the game or go do something else. Muted for being a worthless crybaby

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                • if you're on Ps4 join the kushtacular clan!! we do all the destiny stuff and are all men who are married or have girlfriends who play :D

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                  • Who the hell cares? This is a game where you shoot aliens. Not gripe about sexism.

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                  • OP is beta male bitch.

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                    • It's called everybody is a horny teen who does not know what sex feels like, granted I don't either but I already set off saying I would be forever alone. Also because I don't give a shit what gender you are, if this was an apocalyptic situation I will kill anybody trying to steal from me.

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                    • Edited by Bob: 5/9/2016 12:26:16 PM
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                      I group with ransoms every week. I have never seen people "pass" on someone just cause they were female. One time I remember this female's voice was much like a "squeaker" voice and we all thought it was just a 12 year old boy, when we finally realized it actually was a female, most of the guys acted even nicer in fact Edit: but that's just life, girls get paid more in tip services, they get stuff for free from certain places (ladies night), guys have gaming. Both can do the other but it's a harder path to take

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                    • Take a read thru this forum...disrespect at it's finest blended with some really helpful people.

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                    • Edited by clevercynic: 5/9/2016 12:02:28 PM
                      I don't understand why they do that. If a woman was to join my team I wouldn't care. As long as they know how to play, we're good.

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                    • I bet your one of those creepy couples with a joint facebook profile.

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                    • When someone starts a convo with 'my girlfriend and i' it's basically the same as 'my 11" dong' ... And we all know that's a lie.

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                    • When trying to hit on a girl irl, they can get that embarrassing rejection with usually people around them to witness it. On the internet they can do or say anything without fear as it's all private anyway. Privacy turns people into assholes.

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                    • I have never understood this concept of joining a group as opposed to leading a group. Maybe that is just me, but when I'm with one other player I post that WE need 4 more, and pick my own randoms... as opposed to trying to find a place in an already established group. You and your missus ARE the already established group. Try using the LFG tools in the opposite manner more. Doubtless you will get more respect if you are the leaders.

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