So I have a concern I would like to express.
Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP.
My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together.
So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms.
Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me.
I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving.
Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop.
I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him.
Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people.
Why is this a thing.
When did disrespect become the common thing.
Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny.
Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender.
attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles.
This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do.
Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else.
Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.
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Edited by More Power: 5/9/2016 4:35:51 PM1- Ask to be fireteam leader. 2- Booting is the Gjallarhorn of behavioral management tools. Or... Join a group/web site that contains mostly 25 and up players.
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This isn't tumblr please go make people check their privilege somewhere else
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Lmfao damn -blam!-ing twelve year olds! Haha don't do raid it's really not worth a damn.
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I make derogatory statements about everyone I've ever met. If you tell me to stop I will but until then ill say what i want. Nobody gets a pass in my book.
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Who else read this and immediately thought about sandwiches ??? I know it's wrong but I'm being totally honest. My first thought was sandwiched.
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Unfortunately it's pretty prevelant, especially on the net. I would suggest finding a clan/group that seems decent and using 100.io instead of the other LFG sites. I found some really cool, laid back, folks on 100.io and there are a good number of stand up groups/clans in Destiny. Any of the Destiny Podcasts clans would probably be a relatively safe bet for starters as their generally family friendly and alcan be out of the shenanigans phase.
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If you were on XB1 I would say you could add me if you need an extra.
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You two shouldn't be doing online games if you can't handle it. My female chars get hit on to and it's no big deal.
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You and your gf should join a clan with good people that do not behave like that. Not all people are bad like that and there's people better you can play with.
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"When did disrespect become a thing?" First fps or what? Gaming has tons of ingrates that pull that shit, and it's because they are anonymous. Simple as that. It's a shitty fact of gaming but it's been a constant since online gaming became a thing
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Some people havent left the 1800s yet and think sexism and racism is ok.
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I have a feeling that this is the OP.
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Ive raided with some mean and fuked up female gamers shyt was worst than hearing squeakers
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Maybe women shouldn't game [spoiler]b8[/spoiler]
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Because people are stupid idiots
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I totally agree with you it can be a pain! There's no need for it, but people will be people. My recommendation: start a clan! The one i'm in is a mixed group and its all chill. No one hits or makes any statements whether its a woman or a guy.
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It's called "Posturing". Guys will either be unaffected when a girl enters a room or they'll change their behavior completely. I've been on teams that did what you said, but 75% they are completely chill. I would suggest that you and your girlfriend make your own room and keep the leadership. People you recruit, would be less likely to try to dominate the group or act retarded.
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It's so ridiculous. I honestly would be able to stand it and I would just leave if anybody started hitting on my gf
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i dont care who you are or what you are. anyone is fine in my book.
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Now that you have vented, I will speak frankly. Nothing you say or do will change this sort of behavior. I suggest you either 1) get used to it and deal with it, or 2) get used to it and come up with some snarkly little comebacks, etc. of your own to put the kids in their place. I'd suggest #2 but you don't really seem the type given how sensitive you are on this subject. If it hurt your feelies, nut up. Nothing is going to change on this front. Welcome to online gaming, leave your feelings, triggers (-blam!-ing hate that word...triggers me real good) at the door.
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Just dont have females leave the kitchen and there wont be any problems
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Disrespecting women probably makes them feel better about themselves. They are probably that way because no real women in real life would touch them. With their Doritos covered fingers and more pimples than a pepperoni pizza.
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Have you tried slide shotguning? I'd this is a real problem please ignore me because I don't know real problems.
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Welcome to the new world of no respect...
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The kids are horny it will pass... Maybe
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https://www.bungie.net/en/Forum/Post/203081009/0/0 For anyone who has opinions about feminism, sexism, and the SJW movement. Seeing as its kinda related.