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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • It can be tough being a girl that likes video games. You either get shunned because they automatically assume you're a terrible player or spammed with invites because they want to be creeps. Luckily, I've found teams like that are pretty rare. Some may initially think I'm looking to be carried but everything's fine once they realize I can hold my own.

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  • Reverse feminism. 2weird4me.

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  • Most kids on here act like they never spoke to a female before so they act like they have power over them

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  • That's usually the opposite of what I see. I see teams not even consider females, or they talk to them on the Mic like they're slow. I don't get,it either. If you can hold your own, you are fine by me. I don't care what's between your legs.

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  • You play with the wrong people than. I played with a lot of girls and never not even once did i see someone talking trash to them. Also them trying to hit on her is not sexism.

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    • That's simple. Most of the players on here talk to blowup dolls who can't talk back.... Seriously though it is funny to listen to how ppl change the instant they hear a woman's voice!!! Hilarious!!!

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    • Because a woman who plays video games and is actually good, is hard to find. Plus female gamers are usually polite and just better all around human beings. I too would accept a female gamer over a male of the same skill level.

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    • It's honestly the community of destiny. Lots of the people are cool to raid and play with (as I'm sure you and your girlfriend have found) but a much higher percent of the community is just toxic people, predominantly males, who care for what makes them feel better than what makes sense and what is fair. The same kind of thing will happen if you put [Girl] in your clan tag on a game like Call of Duty. You will get more invites and more messages. It's unfortunate that you and her have to be surrounded by this and that you are ultimately punished. But one thing I have seen, because a lot of female destiny players feel the same way (that they are treated differently, good or bad), is that the girl in the party will refuse to talk. No call outs or anything. Because I'm sure you have been part of teams where as soon as a girl speaks the whole fire team drops what is going on and focuses on the large flow of estrogen in the party. All I can say is I agree with you man, it's not cool. Best thing you can probably do is post on LFG and tell them that if they show any form of disrespect that they get booted no questions or warnings. That's what I do whenever someone is racist or sexist or says nasty remarks about homosexual people.

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      • Guys are dicks! If your on the PS4 hit me up. My boy and I play together and won't act that way. Goddess luck to you both!

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      • Because most guys are idiots. It's just that simple. They are too stupid to understand logic

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      • I've had a girl join in on a raid back in year 1. The other randoms in the chat went nuts. We were about halfway through the raid and she said,"Wolf why aren't you talking." "I just think it's disgusting that they treat you like that they treat you like this ( they had continually trash talk her and asked her to get in bed with them)." "She left soon after and invited me to join her party and we just talked for about an hour then I left and we became really good friends.

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      • I have recently started bringing a female into the raid group. We usually need 2-3 people from LFG....Never experienced anything even remotely similar to this. Worst Ive seen so far was her getting laughed at for not being able to jump through the penis room easy.

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      • You're playing with the wrong people. By wrong, i mean lonely.

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