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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • It's the Internet people r asses they'll say anything cause they're not face to face with u

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  • People suck

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  • That's society, males, primarily white males are the most discriminated against

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  • Edited by PureFax_V1: 5/9/2016 12:06:34 AM
    You could always just mute your mics and tell your girl the next time someone hits on her say "you can have it all daddy, right after I get to stretch your anus with my strap on, mmmmm". That'll show em.

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  • dude, next time , just turn the gain way up on your mics.. and -blam!- like rabbits. let em carry you through the raids.... [spoiler]or watch em leave to go fap one out. either way it is now their problem and not yours[/spoiler]

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  • The anonymity of the Internet/voice chat lets people do and say things without the fear of repercussions. It sucks that you and your girlfriend have to deal with idiots like that. Just keep friending all the normal helpful people you play with and eventually you'll have a solid list to invite people from when you need peeps.

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  • You just need to play with cooler people.

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  • Sounds like just bad luck to be honest.

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  • I'm a girl and boiz are stoopid. Girlz roool!!!!

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  • Edited by TheGreatCensor: 5/9/2016 12:24:51 AM
    Only girl I've raided with in destiny was trash lol

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    A guy friend and I joined a group at Oryx hard mode recently. It was a random put together group, so we were prepared to give it a few tries and move on. Surprisingly, the group gelled and finished challenge after only one wipe. Everyone went their separate ways right after. Just before I left the party chat (they thought they were the last two) one guys asked the other "was that titan a kid or a girl?" I laughed and told them "I'm a girl fellas, thanks for the raid. Bye! " That group was cool.

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  • My fiancé and I play together all the time and she has never been hit on or any of that jazz. Bad luck I suppose.

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  • For those of you who are mad that there is sexism in raids then there is a easy solution. Since I have seen that more guys play destiny then girls I suggest a solution. Since the OP and most people have mics and many people are sexist let the Bf of the relationship put his mic on first but the gf later unless it is a requirement for the raid team. If they ask who it is say what you want to say. IF the raid group starts hitting, being rude, or they are unbearable then either leave or take hits. BUT just make sure at all costs that your relationship is not broken apart by a VIDEO GAME.

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  • How about you grow a pear. [spoiler]And then eat it[/spoiler]

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    • Edited by MGB: 5/9/2016 12:06:21 AM
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      You brought a chick to a party of virgins, are you not experienced in life?

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    • I am a women on destiny....ps3. And same thing happens to me. And both me and my bf are fed up. Its so hard to find a group to be able to do raids and get the good gear just because the randoms wont treat me with decency. It sucks

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      • On the remark of using a female character, it should be common sense at this point that guys like making female characters; whether it be to perv on them or just to mix things up. On the sexist remarks from raid groups, I've never heard any complaints like this before but I'm glad I'm hearing about this problem now. This info helps bring the hammer down onto people like this and promotes a healthy gaming society. I hope the problem goes away soon.

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      • If your a Guy playing a Female character, then you should probably be using the bathrooms at Target.

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        • So basically u can't satisfy your woman

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        • Wow this post is full of SJW lmao

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          • You need to realize that simply being in an online chat/game party with a female is probably the closest these dorks will ever come to the opposite sex. Aside from their moms of course but thats an entirely different aspect of online interactions. Don't think it's sexism per se but more of socially retarded douche cakes hiding behind the veil of online anonymity.

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          • What exactly are the tests? Never heard of this.....

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          • For me it's a matter of as long as the person can listen, learn and doesn't generally just suck I'm perfectly fine with them.

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          • Edited by wheresmycheetos: 5/8/2016 11:21:20 PM
            You mean sexism in general? It's all because of how men work, some guys are just better at holding it in and not expressing it as others. I find it funny that raids have tests now. It's so easy now especially with the light bump

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          • Most girls that i play with stay quite. Unless she start to mess up because she didn't call out numbers or others. I have not ran into rude players yet that insult girls. All we want her to say the simple stuff so we know if we need to cover what she miss. So far so good with me and the random people I run with. I guess it bad luck... Sorry man.

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          • I accept only skilled players. I don't judge on gender, race, and sometimes age.

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