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Edited by Draco_Mantis: 5/9/2016 1:14:46 PM
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Sexism in raids.

So I have a concern I would like to express. Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP. My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together. So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms. Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me. I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving. Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop. I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him. Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people. Why is this a thing. When did disrespect become the common thing. Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny. Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender. attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles. This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do. Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else. Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.

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  • Make your team, don't look for space for 2 more.

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  • Edited by KayOsS882: 5/9/2016 12:45:58 AM
    Every guy suddenly grows balls when they're behind a computer/tv screen. I personally have not witness any sort of sexism while playing any game so far and I've raided or poe with girls on my team many times. I'm not saying douche bags like the guys you described don't exist but I'll say they are a rare breed. This is why you, your girl friend, me, or any civilized human being should not worry. These are very rare breed of humans they're unlikely to breed and pass on their stupidity. They'll soon die out.

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    • come on dude, let your girl have fun. ps, women find insecurity very unattractive

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    • Well now people suck at kings fall so it's not even worth trying to get a girl in there. :/

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    • I experience the same thing when I find raid groups with my girlfriend. I already know something is going to happen once someone in the group asks "Is that a girl?" [spoiler]T R I G G E R E D[/spoiler] Guys will often go out of their way to try and impress her or say stupid things in an attempt to make her laugh. The younger bunch will be even worse, however, with excessive swearing and trash talk to try and seem older and "cool." It really does get old. I mean, I already know a lot of the guys out there immediately start panting at the sound of a girl in video games, but I hate having to experience it with my girlfriend.

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    • People in online games are dumb as hell and this happens in pretty much every game with a raiding aspect to it. This happened with my circle of friends, two of my friends were a married couple and people would actively hit on the wife and do everything they could to edge out her husband completely ignoring the fact that he was usually the raid's tank and she was usually healer so if they pissed them off the raid would wind up going nowhere. Hell, I used to have a feminine character in WoW and would have people unironically hit on me constantly until I started using my mic to prove I was a dude. Suddenly my raid invites dried up real fast. It's ridiculous both ways, that female characters and women gamers get special treatment, and that they get harassment solely for their gender because other players are immature and don't realize that desperately trying to impress someone with your mad gaming skills and horrible pickup lines you heard on TV won't get you anywhere with anyone.

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      • I see this stuff all the time. I have no mic though do I can only watch them and judge harshly. They fail so hard.

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      • its commonly know, if you have boobs, you have power. sh will get you in easier.

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      • It's due to the anonymity of the online environment. Those who are disrespectful do not have a direct or major consequence so they keep at it. It's truly sick that people ignore or forget that there are other people over that mic/message window.

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      • Sad and pathetic to hear this

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      • Do you not live in the same reality as everyone else?

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      • Get over it. Sex sells even when it's not selling.

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      • The best thing you can do is make a new group of friends. But get to know them first. This way you have two raid groups. Good luck!

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      • Are you on xbox or ps. Half of my normal raid team are female but I have played with other teams but have never heard anything like you are talking about. I'm not saying it doesn't happen I just haven't experienced it on xbox.

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      • I've raided numerous times. Every time after the first using LFG. I've had one bad experience and they were booted, replaced, and raid finished. Use your checkpoints. If the other guys have been raised differently and are rude to you don't pay attention to them. Not getting into the moral battle of it because If you got girl problems I feel bad for you son. I got 99 problems and a bitch ain't one.

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      • Edited by Romulus: 5/9/2016 12:55:12 AM
        Hey do you remember me? Atheon cheese? EDIT: Read the post. You make an excellent point. Sexism in video games is an issue that needs to be addressed. Its ridiculous that female gamers seem to get a pass based on their gender. That or they are discriminated and booted instead.

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        • Pics or she's not real

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        • Pics or she doesn't exist.

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        • Can we see a pic of your wife for clarification

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          • Well this post will have no effect on your future groups.

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          • Humans Das y [spoiler]we must mate[/spoiler]

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          • I mean, let's be honest, this extends outside the gaming community as well. It's just life.

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            • Edited by bunovasitch: 5/9/2016 12:39:24 AM
              Because most of these people haven't seen, or much less heard a girl since September 2014

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            • It's the Internet people r asses they'll say anything cause they're not face to face with u

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