So I have a concern I would like to express.
Both my girlfriend and I are avid Destiny players. We both love raiding and doing POE and all of it. We both love PvE and PvP.
My concern comes in this, we do have a group that will do all of these things with us. But as it stands all of us have jobs and/or school. So sometimes it is difficult to get all of us together.
So what my girlfriend and I do is get a team of randoms.
Why is it that just because she is a woman that plays games she gets automatic passes into every group there is. Yet I have to pass some sort of test. We will even ask for groups with room for two for both of us. And as soon as they find out she is a woman they will invite her anyway and tell her to ditch me.
I have even had groups hit on her while I am in the chat. She is an amazing woman and tells them to stop or we are both leaving.
Most of the time we have to end up leaving because they wont stop.
I have even heard a guys girl yell at him to stop or she would break up with him.
Just because she is a woman she gets treated like a slut from multiple other people.
Why is this a thing.
When did disrespect become the common thing.
Edit: Thanks for the responses guys. I also have an experience to add that I forgot to mention on here. I have one female character which is my warlock. Well while on my warlock and with my girlfriend, A random guy at the tower decided to try and add us both. And as he put it he thought he it the jackpot. Like wtf is wrong with people that is so wrong and disrespectful it isn't even funny.
Edit: OK. To say for the record the reason I said sexism is the derogatory statements made because of her gender.
attitudes or behavior based on traditional stereotypes of gender roles.
This is the definition of sexism as taken from dictionary.com. those fall under sexism. if you are going to try and bash me for just voicing a concern, at least get your facts straight before you do.
Edit: Yes i Know all woman get hit on. That's the nature of males. I am talking about the way it is being done. Plain out disrespect in the things being said. I wonder if some of these things they said to a woman if they would ever dream to ever say them in person, or better yet in front of someone else.
Edit: This is just voicing a concern. Thinking out loud. Asking a question. Whatever you want to call it.
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Because 80 percent of gamers haven't seen a pussy since they were yanked out of one during their birth.
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Just stop being a pussy and defend her , builds trust ....
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Face it, it's life. It won't change without magic.
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Well I guess you should be dating a man.
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I played trials with a woman a few weeks back and I said something about warlocks and she thought I said something about her being slutty somehow lol. She then proceeded to yell at me through her mic while smoking 😂
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People really need to just show a little respek for the females
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Easy solution: have separate hobbies.
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What do you think is going to happen, lfg is place full of diverse people. Some might be the kindest people you ever meet and other will just be rude idiots who don't fathem the word respect. And also this is a teen rated game with a majority of males. So these males understands that with video games they have no risk for harassing or flirting with a girl so it is bound to happen.
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Just play with people on your friends list if it bothers you so much after all that's why there called Pugs there people you don't know i rarely ever play with randoms except for when i'm playing POE but you can always mute them if they say stupid shit on voice chat,but not as much when your in a Raid as communication is vital to the raid teams success. Thing is your always going to have Asshats when playing with random players it's unavoidable which is why if i'm thinking of doing a Raid,i will start a Raid group myself and i'd make it clear to all if they start being Intentionally Asshats they will be kicked without hesitation,as there are plenty of random players who want to do a Raid and who are respectful.
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Sexism - as in your girl gets better treatment just because of her sex?
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If she sounds feminine then she will be hit on. If she sounds tough then men will stop feeling like a alpha male; even though they are betas.
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I've had the pleasure of playing regularily with a number of female destiny players and they are all just as good and swear just as much.
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I've played with many of females on many different games....this has never happened. You either have shit luck or ur bored and need attention.
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When did not being able to seperate a game from real life become a thing?
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Yeah, I call BS. You don't have a girlfriend, OP, and your hand doesn't count either.
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Happened once. Raid requirements were be skilled have Tom and be 315. A girl showed up who was 312 and didn't have the gun and kept making us wipe. I said something and got kicked.
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Don't search for random because expecting guys not to hit on a girl online is like expecting snow not to melt...It's going to happen. Unfortunately for me I'm forever alone so I don't have to worry about that problem. Best thing to do is either ignore it or form a raid team of your own. Obviously your gf doesn't like being hit on, so then just ask her if she wants to stay or you'll both just go. I have a raid team of us 5 guys and 1 female, her boyfriend plays and they don't seem to have that problem.
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Never had this happen to me. My boyfriend and I play all the time together. I've been kicked before for dying while playing with a group of try hards. The only questions I'm ever asked is my light level and character. Same as my boyfriend.
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Some neckbeards on the Internet hit on my girlfriend over voice chat. Better come cry about.
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I got 2 different problems out of this 1. Your girlfriend received special treatment for having a vagina (This resulted in discrimination against you) 2. She was being hit on for having a vagina (This resulted in discrimination and disrespect against her) Do I have to break out the behavorial science and biology text book to explain the hypergamy, gynocentrism and the anonymous ass hole phenomenon?
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Cue the white knights
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Are you new to the internet?
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Based purely on what you're saying here it hardly seems like treating her like a slut, it's just guys being overzealous and a lack of boundaries. I don't see how flirting with a girl = thinking she's a slut. Is it inappropriate given the situation? Yes. Sexist? Barely. Although one thing I will point out, and this is nothing to do with you personally, but I love how feminists always say how the gaming community is an "all boys club" and that women are treated like outcasts/mocked etc. when actually the reverse is true as proven, albeit anecdotally, by your comments about how they're far more welcoming to your girlfriend.
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If you ever have Trouble finding A raid Group or need players You can message me, My friends are pretty mature and wouldn't mind raiding with you.
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If that happened to me (and if I had a girlfriend who played Destiny) I'd just start my own teams, or just take their comments in a light hearted manner. It's an online game, not a bar.
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Make your team, don't look for space for 2 more.