Read a few pages into the thread, look back at your opening, and it might become clear to you. If you wanted a conversation about double standards, ask about double standards. If you want to make a joke, state clearly it's a joke in the first place - it's not like we have tone, a shared history, or some other context to otherwise clearly communicate that kind of statement is a joke - and maybe used a term that's a little less loaded to do so. Trying to claim jokes after you've gotten called out and trying to make this my issue is weak sauce.