I see two possible problems which may or may not be spot on. Are you unconsciously telling yourself that you do more thn you should n tht its not fair for you? She wants you to change the things that are really very meaningful and they dragging the relationship down? Or, is she selfishly telling you to change just to fit her needs? Are the chores in the house badly distributed and is dhe stressing you more thn she should? What kind of gf doesn't understand the meaning of relaxation tho...wtf. if i had a guy, id make him go to sleep like a baby now n thn lol.