I think you two are arguing different points.You think it doesn't make sense cause you're asking "How can you put differences aside and exclude males?" and she thinks you're saying females are incapable of putting their differences aside with each other. Let me break down the sentence in OP so that you understand it. "We are a clan that puts our differences aside." Who is the "we" in the subject?That's answered 3 words later.The "we" is the clan.Whose differences are being put aside?Our differences,that being the members of the clan. Therefore,the members of the clan put their differences aside with each other.Men aren't even a part of that equation.