"On a personal level, being misogynist, ableist, homophobic, etc. is not just about feeling hatred for marginalised groups. Hatred is a symptom, and not everyone has that symptom. Sometimes it’s pity. Or creepy dehumanising fascination. Or indifference. Or ignorance and a self-absorbed refusal to learn to be better. But it’s not about your feelings at all - it’s about actions and whether your actions support an oppressive system. That’s why you can’t say, “I’m not misogynist! I love women!” and have people go, “well, you know your feelings best!” It’s not about your feelings. It’s about what you’re doing and if it’s harmful. And you do not get to decide if you’re harming others." On another note: “The “born this way” narrative supports a structure of cisgender and heterosexual supremacy that does real harm to queer people. It maintains the idea that the world would be better if we were all cisgender, heterosexual, gender conforming, monogamous, etc. Our difference is only begrudgingly acceptable because it cannot be helped.” -So What If I Wasn’t Born This Way Plus: "You telling gay people not to get married because it goes against your beliefs is as ridiculous as a Muslim or Jew making it illegal for you to eat bacon because it goes against theirs." And: "Homosexuality does exist in almost all social species." Finally: "Heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, it doesn’t really and truly matter does it? These are just ideas and concepts, a collection of thoughts; an identity, a limitation. These things are only relatively true. If you have an idea of who you are and even if everyone you come into contact with agrees with you that you are this thing, this label, it doesn’t mean that is who you truly are. Try to truly get to the bottom of who you are. Your sexual identity is something that you have added to you; it isn’t you. Any identity, idea or concept that you add to you isn’t you. Just simply try and find you."