No, the queen who rules harshly is Oryx and his sisters. They know this is the winning strategy, and they see themselves as the natural answer to the Light. Everything gets more and more ruthless until only the 'best' nation is left. The Traveler and its Light are the queens who want a gentle nation ringed in spears. Coincidentally, the Traveler is described with female pronouns in some source. The nations ruled by queens with great towers or just law were the worlds wiped out by the Hive.