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The last line is what was throwing me off. Anyways, just open up and be honest. Ask her why things have changed all of a sudden. Why the change in tone in conversation. She could be interested in someone else or maybe simply having second thoughts. Maybe she is pulling back and reeling back as well? I think when a girl says "I'm a mess" that its a subtle way of trying to ward a guy off, like maybe she's not ready to give herself to someone else just yet.
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The OP thing was for my thread, sorry. But yeah I'm still outta town, and figured something like this is better suited for a face to face discussion, so I'll bring it up when I see her next. The mess comment I can see that now that you said it, it makes sense.. And I'm a little bummed I didn't notice it. But I'm just going to ease off until I'm back in town and see if she's free for lunch or something to talk.