We have over 60 players in our group and most are parents with young children with very busy lives. Im trying to help you people by stating what I believe to be the best way to play this game. You don't have to be a hardcore gaming nerd to join a group, its for casuals too. All your really doing is adding similar minded people to your friends list instead of being matchmade with spoilt brats, you get to play with good people any time you want.