I have been having trouble lately with figuring out what kind of person I should be. I often feel split with wanting to make opposite decisions that conflict with each other. It's like I have two sets of morals that go against each other. One side is good the other is bad and I want to be both but can't decide.
Good: The caring romantic side of me that wants to explore, experience, and do everything. When I'm like this my interest is in the well being of everyone. This is the path that I'm on right now and the only "me" that people (friends and family) have ever known.
Bad: Underneath my good exterior is a hateful side of me craving for a life of chaos, war, and destruction. This side if me is exciting to my mind and the thought of exploring it is empowering. However this side might not be as accepted by everyone including my good side. This life could end up saddening people who love me and make me end up a lonely selfish person.
So what should I do? Do I stay good and seek the love of others and deny my internal desires or do I become a bad person who risks his friendships in a selfish attempt to get what I really want?
[quote]edit: I'm looking for a response that makes sense. I'm having trouble choosing what to do so perhaps if there is something to make a choice more sensible than the other then it would make it easier to decide.[/quote]
[b][u]Final Choice[/u][/b]
[spoiler]Ironically I found my answer getting subway yesterday (also got some community support). I went in for a sandwich and I ended up talking with a girl that I knew from highschool and we talked about how things have been. Looking back at highschool all she could could remember was how I was such a sweet and nice person. I didn't think much of it at first but it makes me feel good to know that people don't look at me as a terrible person. As much as I want to quit what I've got sometimes and pursue something a little more lonely (because not everyone can keep up with me) I'm pretty sure that I'm going to just stay the way that I am. [/spoiler]
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Should I be good and be with friends or bad and be lonely doing what I want to do?
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Just be bad. It feels right when you kill neighborhood household animals and tie up women for sexy time.
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If you can consciously make the decision to be bad and even lean towards it, you may have a problem.
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You know, I often would wonder the same thing to myself. Then I quit wondering and just did what came first, and things just fell into place along the way. Sometimes I wonder about the alternate paths my life could take, but in the end instinct is going to guide me to do whatever I do, so why worry? I just enjoy the ride along the way.
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I would never give advice for someone to be "bad" and alienate themselves from love. It's your life and you get to choose what path you take.
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There is no such thing as "good and bad" when it comes to morals so do whatever you think is best in each situation.
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Bad be bad You should always be the most important person in your life. -blam!- what other people think. Only help others if it helps you. [spoiler]im probably a sociopath[/spoiler]
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Be neutral, always worked for me
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Morality isn't as black & white as people want to believe. Embrace both sides b/c they're both a part of who you are. However I'd say try to do the right thing when you can.
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At heart, I'm just a good person. And it's horrible. If you've got a choice, be a bad person. :)
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Embrace the darkness it is a part of yourself Embrace the good it is also a part of yourself Live a morally grey life
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There's an attraction to evil, yet we long for meaning and purpose. My life changed - for the better - when I started ernestly seeking answers through the Bible. It explaims the duality you're talking about (our fallen nature), and a truly effective solution (looking to Jesus as our commander and Savior) which provides spiritual power and freedom. I've included a link to some podcasts that address your questions
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How about.... You be you?
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Alternate solution. Wipe out the human race because their awful.
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Are you DOG/GOD from FONV?
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Is this thread about Karma in Fallout?
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Just wait for Recon to show up, and all your problems will be solved
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Self gratification provides moments of exhilaration unlike anything you're likely to get any other way. But those moments are fleeting and hollow in the long term. Being the "good guy" is hard. Damn hard most of the time and often comes with more pain than you would get being the "bad guy". But at the end of the day you can look yourself in the mirror without an ounce of shame. How much all that matters to you is for you to decide.
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Edited by Jphn_33: 4/19/2015 8:25:31 PMMight be my own morals creeping in here, but be a good person. In my experience, it makes people happier, and is better for everyone. If that truly doesn't work, then I urge you to do what you believe is right. I'm all for people being happy, but when an activity would impede another person's happiness, then that activity should not be allowed. Basically what I'm trying to say is don't murder people, at the most extreme.
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New infamous game confirmed
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Be a sociopath
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Bad. All the mushy lovey stuff is stupid. If you actually wanna live your life go mostly for the bad side.
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There is no good nor bad, there are no morals. Be whomever you want to be, and whatever happens happens. (PS. This is how ww2 started. Don't be a cûnt)
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Simple solution let your good side guide your intentions and your bad side the means of obtaining that intention. However always remember to let your neutral or logical side judge whether or not the cost is less than the benefit.
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Everyone has this struggle. Be an adult when you should be and do the right thing. Once in a while you'll get to go let loose and be the bad guy, so just relax and live your life.