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Edited by voltX7:
4/1/2015 3:44:20 AM
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Well a good friend of mine has succumbed to depression
I supported her every step of the way. I constantly texted her, hanged out with her, and made her feel better. Now she thinks she isn't worth it and that I should abandon her like many others. Of course I was offended. I, who stayed by her side for so long, was pushed away. She accused me of having a perfect life when she knows that I don't, and then proceeded to say that even God abandoned her. I am now at a loss for words. Anyone who has seen me on the forums knows I'm way more lighthearted, but I'm slowly becoming remorseless. Anyone else who has experienced this?
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I'll sound harsh for saying this, but don't let her problems drag you down as well. Give her your support, try to get her into some hobbies that might work as stress relievers (video games, exercise, blogging/writing, etc) and don't mention therapy so much. (Just give a nudge towards every once in a while, but not overtly). But don't let yourself become depressed, sometimes give her some space to give yourself a breather. And if she ever goes down the rabbit hole (bad habits) it might be best for you to bail. I learned that lesson the hardway, so don't let yourself get into trouble.
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Same thing happened for me, slightly less dramatic though. It's really complicated. Try to get her to have therapy, trust me it's the best course. No matter how much me and my friends helped my friend, she just kept getting relapses and started thinking about suicide. Support her, but honestly she needs to help herself and get therapy.
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1 ReplyYou kinda have to keep supporting
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Don't take it too personally man. She may feel like she doesn't deserve a friend like you, and sees herself as a cancer in your life. Sometimes the darkness just creeps in and makes you think there is no light left. Keep at it man. You are a good friend for staying with her and being there. She knows that, and she'll be a lot worse if you go. I know it doesn't always seem like it, but if you stay, she'll appreciate it.
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Just be her friend and be there when she needs you
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3 RepliesGive her the dick.
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1 ReplyEdited by Resurrection101: 4/1/2015 11:06:43 PMLife is a test not everyone makes a passing grade... You can always be there to help her but she has to find that strength to go on in herself no one can give it to her.
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6 RepliesTell her that God can't abandon her, because he obviously isn't real.
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1 ReplyJust tell her you won't be going anywhere anytime soon and that she can always talk to you. Be her rock, bro
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1 ReplyYou can't be too offended when someone depressed does that. Its not personal on any level but it does mean they need help if the shun the people that care. She is having severe thought distortions that come with deep depression and the only way I know to help is to try to get her notice them and help her change the thought when it bubbles to the surface before she goes down that spiral [spoiler]sigh....I'm feeling pretty suicidal as of late after not having those thoughts for months:( Ive still got some of my of distorted thoughts it seems.... :([/spoiler]
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3 RepliesTell her to go -blam!- herself and that she isn't worth it. People like that just aren't worth the time, man. Face the facts.
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4 RepliesSounds like a bitch. There's nice razorblades at home depot maybe get her a giftcard?
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2 Replies[quote]Anyone who has seen me on the forums knows I'm way more lighthearted, but I'm slowly becoming remorseless. Anyone else who has experienced this?[/quote] Yup. Took my red pill a while back and things have never been the same.
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2 RepliesTell her she's beautiful it works 100% of the time and If she says I'm not keep sayin it until she says he is
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2 Replies[quote]I supported her every step of the way.[/quote] Dude that's messed up! Don't support depression.
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1 ReplyIt's part of depression. Nothing you do will convince her otherwise. All you can do is keep putting up with it, or abandon her like the rest. Know that she doesn't necessarily see your life as perfect, but compared to hers and with the over the top emotion associated with depression it seemed that way at the time. Read up on depression a bit and be very understanding with her and you might be able to help, but trust me as someone who has had depression and has lived with a partner with severe depression: she will frustrate the -blam!- out of you and it's going to be so hard on you psychologically. It could get much worse than it is now too. It all depends how much you're prepared to put into your friendship. PM me if you need something g more specific.
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6 RepliesTake a break from her if you need to
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Edited by KiNg_george19: 4/1/2015 7:05:26 PMWhen I was dealing with really bad depression I pushed people away because I didn't want to be emotionally attached to them so that when they abandoned me it wouldn't hurt as bad. She's doing it to protect herself. What I really needed was someone who would be strong for me and just be there. It sounds like you have been that. Leaving her now would only affirm her feelings that she's not worth anything.
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Edited by FaintestWolves: 4/1/2015 7:00:57 PMDo not antagonize her for saying that. Depression sucks more than anything I've ever experienced in my life. If you really want her to get better then you must have to put up with it. Try and get her to open up. Talking helps so much more than you can imagine. And you have to be aware that you probably won't see results for awhile. And after she gets better, she will realize how much you helped her and will value your friendship above all else
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Stick it in her pooper
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Self diagnosed depression. It's SO horrible!
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Giver her the D. And all she will have his obsession not depression.
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Have sex with her....she will feel better then go out
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Recommend counciling its helped me with my bipolar disorder and manic depression it doesnt make me crazy or helpless its just nice having someone to talk to that wont judge me
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My friend gets in a lousy mood sometimes, and all I do is just talk to him like a regular friend. I just say what's up and if he says nothing, then I just try to start a normal conversation with him. Don't make her feel like she needs special help, because that's exactly what depressed people don't want.
