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Edited by chf4242: 3/17/2015 12:24:05 AM
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Relationship advice

While I hesitate to post this here because of the huge number of 12 year old trolls who have never seen a real girl naked, I ask the more mature and experienced part of the forum for some advice. Me and my girlfriend broke up after a big fight Saturday night after prom, and we haven't really talked since. Since the reason I asked her out in the first place is she was a really cool person and an awesome funny girl who I was good friends with, I don't want to lose a person like that. So basically, I want to try and become friends again like before. I know this is gonna be awkward at first an probably a long process, but she was one of my closest friends and is really like that back. As I said, we haven't talked since it happened. We go to the same school and have classes together, but as I said I haven't talked to her yet and I have no idea if she wants to be friends or what. Any advice as to how I should approach this? Thanks guys I've heard all I need to I appreciate the help. Don't need any more responses. I've gotten a loud no from her for now, with a maybe farther down the line.

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  • [quote]Any advice as to how I should approach this?[/quote] Gently. If you approach her and get one of those "oh no, here he comes" vibes? Just smile, nod and show her that you're respecting her desires not to speak with her. If she appears open to at least a short conversation, something along the lines of "Hey, I know that we had a bad night, but I really do like spending time with you and think that you're awesome. I am just wondering if you'd like to talk about things, maybe now, maybe later. No pressure, just let me know if and when you'd like to talk. If you don't want to talk, I understand and won't push, but I did think that you deserved some honesty and to know that I still want to spend time with you." Change that up if it doesn't match your actual thoughts, but above all, be calm, be polite, be honest, but don't put any pressure on her. She may feel bad about the incident too, she may still be pissed. But there is never anything wrong with being honest and putting your cards on the table. Even if the reaction is "get away, stay away, don't talk to me ever again", you were honest and got a reply that tells you where things stand.

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