Family comes first. First wife, then kids, then self (destiny). Once you've taken care of the previous you can play without angering a wife. Let her know you like it. If she knows you love doing it and you let her do what she's loves then after you've shared the responsibilities of the home with her she shouldn't have a problem with you playing. And no, working full time has nothing to do with it. Your wife will probably not give you any advantage at all from the fact you've worked all day.