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Edited by J M A X 3four:
3/5/2015 2:21:30 AM
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The FAMILY MAN struggle
Any other family peeps out there have to balance Destiny with work, kids and a wife/girlfriend? My wife puts up with Destiny but it's mostly because I don't play till kids are tucked in and read to and I try and watch a show of my wife's choosing before jumping on. Stay on late get up early... Worth it!
What is everyone's ritual for getting to Destiny without getting in trouble with the family?
Edit: I love that I'm not alone in this. I can't believe how many people have the identical schedule as mine! Must be why I always find good randoms when I'm on, we are all family men. #destinydadsunite
Edit: We got our first Toxic Troll response. So I would like to give the award for biggest buzzkill to SEANY, You earned it bro.
Edit: WOW GUYS AND GALS!!! I woke up to hundreds more comments and 99% of them are positive! It's amazing to see so many good family peeps finding a healthy balance between gaming, work and family. You people are amazing and I'm not sure I've smiled so much reading these posts.
Edit: over 1000 replies!!!! Nice to see so many awesome people out there and hardly any trolls! Stay real guardians.
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It's been a struggle to find the time lately...wife and just had our first. I have to squeeze whatever I can in between feedings, diaper changes lol, but it's all good, as long as you keep your priorities straight, the game isn't going anywhere.
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Edited by CrazyCadder: 3/4/2015 4:02:28 PMI have two kids and I'm a stay at home dad. I get to play an hour during nap time, which is enough time to do either 5-6 bounties, a strike, a heroic strike, or the heroic daily. Then, after they go to bed, I play from either 9-midnight or 10-midnight, depending on if the wife goes to bed early or watches tv. On Friday and Saturday nights, my nephew (he's 11 and lives two states away) gets on XB Live and we play the game together.
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Dollars to donuts I have played with you as my schedule is pretty much identical. It's fun having destiny to look forward to as a little escape from the monotony of daily life. Cheers friend.
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You pretty much nailed it....need to maintain ballance. Though....I've pretty much given up watching any tv shows other than walking dead
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2 RepliesMy wife bought me the ps4 and destiny for my birthday. She always gives me time to play. She kind of rocks.
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Leave for work early so I get home early to play before the gf gets home. Then again when she does work in the evening. Still not enough time
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3 kids and 1 on the way... I get up at 4:30 AM. The Internet isn't bogged down with phones, tablets and laptops. Everyone is asleep and I can drink a pot of coffee in piece.
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I'm just like you, except no kids and my girlfriend doesn't mind when I play video games. I'm not really like you. But being a good boyfriend does require a little bit of quality time and effort to be put before video games occasionally. So I can relate to staying up late to play versus playing from the moment I get off work.
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4 RepliesMy daughter just had her first birthday yesterday. Cheers Dads!
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I get pretty lucky because I have a seasonal job. So a few months in the winter I get all kinds of free time for gaming. The struggle is only real for the rest of the year lol.
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Im pretty much the same, luckily dont have kids so dont have that added pressure. I play pretty much Friday Night, Saturday and Sunday morning and may get on when the wife has a bath etc. Any days i have off i pretty much get on it and spend most of the day doing what i need to do, that's why its only recently i have been completing raids!
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50 RepliesMy daughter was just born about 12 hours ago... im looking forward to the family man struggle :) lol
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5 RepliesI have a 2 year old daughter (she'll be 2 at least in April) and a 6 week old daughter. I get up for work at 4AM. Start at 6AM. Work until 5PM. Get home about 5:45PM. Play with my 2 year old until about 8PM (her bedtime) and give some attention to my newborn in between (she's mostly sleeping or being breastfed) as well as give the wife some attention. Then I'll eat dinner while my wife sleeps a few hours in the bedroom with the 2 year old and I'll keep an eye on the newborn while she sleeps a few hours until needing her next feeding. Then I'll get on Destiny anywhere from 9-10 and play until about midnight. Then take a shower and go to bed. This is mostly what goes on Mon-Friday. It's a struggle and sucks because I don't spend enough time with my babies, but bills need to be paid so I have no choice but to work long hours. I also work Sunday's from 8AM till 5PM. I love walking in the door tho after a long hard day of work and having my daughter shout "daaaaaddyyyyyyyyy you're homeeeeeeeeee" and run and give me a big hug and kiss (most of the time) lol
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What console you on if XB1 my GT = Ellwood8
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1 ReplyHigh school senior, more free time. The routine: wake up, go to school, come home, destiny, sleep, repeat
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I have a gf but I play when I want and she puts up with it. I do however have a friend in the same boat your in. He'll get on for a little bit (before wife/kids) come home and then he won't get back on till after they all go to bed
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Edited by Sick my Duck: 3/4/2015 3:28:44 PMDamn the internet shut SEANY down. I know the struggle well. The struggle is finding the perfect balance. The key is NOT making your wife/girlfriend feel like destiny is the other woman in your life. Here's what I do. On Tuesdays I do nightfall on one char. before I go to work, and spend time with her when I get home from work. The same on Wednesday. Thursday is weekly in the morning. Same on Friday. Friday night after I the kids are asleep we hangout till about midnight or 1 in the morning, then I raid. Raid some more on Saturdays. Hope this helps
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My schedule is a little hectic. I'm a nurse on the night shift=3-4 12hr shifts a week. On my days off when the kids are at school becomes my play time or if I'm staying on my nights schedule then I'm on in the midnight to 6am time slot.
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Not a dad, but have 3 puppies and a gf so getting close. Half my friends list are people from Britain and Australia from mostly playing late at night.
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That last edit>> haha
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Sounds like my situation man. Looks like you have the plan down pact lol.
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Edited by Jamo_3000: 3/4/2015 3:25:29 PMProblem is you all aimed to high when picking a "girlfriend (or wife) you should have all done what I did, I got hold myself a right f@@king stinker who is greatful she has a guy and if she even mentions the word "Destiny" I tell her to put her gag back on and get back into the cellar until iv finished Crota hard mode with no heavy ammo synth and vault of glass weapons, !!!! I won't be denied !!!!!!
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I don't have it bad, my wife is quite tolerant of by destiny addiction lol. From Tue-Thu, get home at 6PM, have dinner, sit down with her to talk or watch tv til around 8, log in to do as many nightfalls and weekly heroics i can do in 1-2 hours with all my characters, and then go back to whatever we were doing. Fridays, the same, but I try my hand at a raid. Weekends, raids for 2-4 hours each day. And sometimes, if she's had it, I take a day off or two.
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Do exactly the same... kids in bed, wife "satisfied", then play destiny.
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My girlfriend will watch raids and strikes. But I have a man cave where I stay and our work schedules time where she is leaving and I get home. Plus I let her play on my lvl 13 hunter just to grind him up. It's cool having a nerdy girlfriend
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5 RepliesI feel ur pain brother!!! The struggle is real!! I have the same problem, I have to wait for the wife n kids to go to bed before I can even play. I can only play on Thursday - Saturday nights from like 10pm to 2am . The other nights I can't even play to work ,so I can't stay up late on those nights to play. So I never really get to raid which sucks a lot. So with that being said any one willing to help me out on those night do the raid would b nice. But I'm getting away from ur point, yes it is hard to game when u have a wife n kids .
