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Edited by J M A X 3four:
3/5/2015 2:21:30 AM
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The FAMILY MAN struggle
Any other family peeps out there have to balance Destiny with work, kids and a wife/girlfriend? My wife puts up with Destiny but it's mostly because I don't play till kids are tucked in and read to and I try and watch a show of my wife's choosing before jumping on. Stay on late get up early... Worth it!
What is everyone's ritual for getting to Destiny without getting in trouble with the family?
Edit: I love that I'm not alone in this. I can't believe how many people have the identical schedule as mine! Must be why I always find good randoms when I'm on, we are all family men. #destinydadsunite
Edit: We got our first Toxic Troll response. So I would like to give the award for biggest buzzkill to SEANY, You earned it bro.
Edit: WOW GUYS AND GALS!!! I woke up to hundreds more comments and 99% of them are positive! It's amazing to see so many good family peeps finding a healthy balance between gaming, work and family. You people are amazing and I'm not sure I've smiled so much reading these posts.
Edit: over 1000 replies!!!! Nice to see so many awesome people out there and hardly any trolls! Stay real guardians.
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I work the swing shift right now. 2pm-10:30pm. Spend the mornings with the wife and kiddo, when I get home around 11-11:30 I play 2-3 hours then head to bed. Weekends are hit and miss
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My wife isn't a huge gamer (back in the day for [url=http://www.wikipedia.org/wiki/Godwin%27s_law]-godwinslaw!-[/url] Zombies, I got her to play and she could use only one controller stick at a time, so I had to place her in one spot and have her aim and shoot knowing she couldn't move around) but she understands why I like to play. Reset days are the hardest for us because our work schedules align to have us both home at the same time. The deal we struck for "Nightfall Night" is I get one run on the weekly heroic, then up to two runs on the nightfall if we die and get kicked back to orbit. If I don't get it in two, then I play again on Thursday when she is working late.
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I feel you man balancing the wife, the kids, the girlfriend, destiny, work, shopping, cleaning, the car and whatever else can be a pain.
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Right here bro. I feel ya!
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I am fortunate to run my own business from my home office. Not much gets done Tuesday/Wednesday. :P
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4 RepliesMy wife gets upset on Tuesdays lol.
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Fiance got a little frustrated with me wanting to play destinybafter work and classes, so I bought her a ps4 and it....she is more addicted than I ever was lol l. Winning!
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I don't have kids but between working fulltime being with my gf and making sure my puppy is taken care of I usually go on only after ten. It's with it though when you finally get the exotic you want
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Same here! Its a rough life my friend
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Hahaha I stay up late and get up early too.
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Just had my first baby girl so it has been a challenge to play as much as I used to. I would say my play time has been cut at least 50% but I'm OK with that. I try and play when I've been home from work for a few hours and spent time with both the baby and my girl. I will say I used to play for the sole purpose of trying to get all exotics but now I play just out of enjoyment. I guess that's a plus of the family struggle.
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My schedule is the same. My wife still does not understand, but I usually wait until everyone is asleep.
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14 RepliesHow is this relevant, oh wait, its just another post where people with "perfect lives" post.
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Sounds identical to my routine... Never use mic either so I don't wake them and usually have to explain lol
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I'm so there as well :) For me it's about making sure the little one is sleeping, than dinner with the wife and I'm usually free until we both go to sleep :) Maybe we can make a group for parents who play destiny :)
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Jonnymax34, I am sorry but it seems your wife disguised as SEANY. Man you are in trouble. :-)
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I had the winter off but now I'm going back to work 10 hours, 5 days per week. With a gf and 2 year old its going to be very tough getting my destiny fix but the weekends I'll have to crack down .
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Wife, 2 sons (3 year old and an 8 month old). I get up about 7:30, and I drop my older kid off at daycare around 8:30am for breakfast, drop the wife at work, get home back around just after 9am. And in no particular order, play with the baby, feed him, make some coffee for myself, change him, put him down for a nap at 10:30-10:45 ish and I hop on to play until about noon before I get ready to head out to drop the baby off at my moms then I head to work. Get home about 10:30pm and spend time the wife until she goes to bed around midnight. But if she's is asleep and the baby is down, I play until about 2:30 am normally. I've gone up to 5:00 am a few times but I become incredibly bitchy and usually try to avoid this.
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Family comes first. First wife, then kids, then self (destiny). Once you've taken care of the previous you can play without angering a wife. Let her know you like it. If she knows you love doing it and you let her do what she's loves then after you've shared the responsibilities of the home with her she shouldn't have a problem with you playing. And no, working full time has nothing to do with it. Your wife will probably not give you any advantage at all from the fact you've worked all day.
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2 RepliesEdited by DrewMan5: 3/4/2015 8:34:03 PMYa we are trying for our first kid. So I work 8 to 12 hours 6 days a week get home cook dinner so it's ready when my wife gets home. Eat watch tv. Do whatever people trying to have kids do. The after she falls asleep I get up and play until 1 or 2. Go to bed and get up at 6:30 or 7. I feel ya on this post. Better than going to the bar and drinking all night. It's a social gathering.
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Buddy we are on the same team. My wife is great but hate video-games. I am totally hooked in Destiny so the trouble scenario is set. She likes some late TV Series so I have to wait for her to go about that so I can play at least 1hr before I have to go to sleep. Whenever she comes downstairs to grab a glass of water or something I get a comment or "that look". She acts similar when I get out on my motorcycle. :-) I guess the secret is to keep cool and maintain common respect. I do not accept to be controlled and will always act responsibly so there should be no reason for complaints. At least not rational ones. :-) I was lucky to get some friends online who invite me once in a while for Raids, which take longer to finish of course so I only accept these invites Friday-Saturday nights. LOL Oh man. Do I have to hear complains those days... Keep the good fight in the game and peace at home. Family is more important. The game will always be there when we have sometime to spare.
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4 RepliesI feel ya brother! I; like yourself, struggle with the juggle. I'm the primary parent in the evenings, considering my wife doesn't get home from work until 7pm or so. I keep my Destiny privileges by making sure I over-do family time. After work I pick up the boys (ages 2 & 4), cook them dinner, wash dishes, conduct ABC mouse time, bath them and by then my wife is home and ready to read books to them before bed. When she's finished we hang out and I suffer through Gray's Anatomy or Parenthood until she falls asleep on the couch. That's when I take action and start my creep downstairs. I stay up pretty late, but it doesn't affect me much because my wife is responsible for getting the boys going in the morning. If you're on XBONE look me up GT: AnKh en3rgy. I have a feeling we are on at the same times.
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Wife no kids, after dinner she watches her shows, I play destiny, luckily my job if I get my work done I can get out early or work half a day, so that lets me get on hours before the wife gets home
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Edited by SlinkSugar: 3/4/2015 8:49:59 PMMy wife is resigned to the fact, that Tuesdays are game nights, once the kiddies are tucked away. Destiny has not done me any favors with my Marriage, but thats totally on me. cuz I'm freaking hooked, line, and sinker. Now its just a game, and I'm not gonna choose it over my personal life....but I must admit, I'm that guy going every weekend Friday night to Sat early am, once the family is out fast asleep...grinding out my bounties or trying to hook up with a Raid Group...or upgrading my Crucible DTR score, raise my k/d etc. Of course every waking moment, when no one is around, I'm playing freaking destiny, screwing my workouts, or other personal hobbies...holy crap I used to read in bed.....Now I'm only reading while on the train to work, cuz it interferes with my Destiny schedule...so Destiny is helping me become illiterate and fat...awesome...I may need counseling....heh
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She works a full day on Sunday ,,, thank god,, try to get on when I can ,,,,,
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I work shifts one in every three weeks I look forward to as I'm on afternoon shifts so I stay up late when I get home and get up early when the wife is in work and my kid is around one of our parents (he's to young for school) this is my gaming week :-) The only other specified days I get are ''Gaming Tuesdays'' when my wife goes to dance for the evening and I get on Destiny at 7pm with my clan for some raiding.... I look forward to these days :-) Any other time is a random hour here or there when my wife has gone to bed early or is out with her friends for the evening. It can be hard sometimes as gaming is my passion to keep a happy balance my sleep suffers the most but its a sacrifice that I chose to make ;-)
