It is a crushing fear of not being able to provide for a woman's needs and wants. I also have this fear and it has kept me from having a girlfriend also. But I have learned that while girls want people who can provide for their every desire, they also want someone who will be there for them. So you have to take it one step at a time. being available for them to rest in you. As they grow to trust you more and more, it gets easier and easier for you to stick with them. Even if it is something as small as being willing to call them when they are feeling down. Girls really appreciate that. I will say, if you want a girl to trust you with her issues, you have to trust her with your issues. As you walk step-by-step, day by day with a girl, eventually you will find that you don't want to live a life without them.[b] I will caution you against jumping in head first[/b]. This is a gradual and intimate process. Don't be rash. Take the time to let the girl unfold her soul to you, let her share her burdens with you on her speed. don't scare her away by trying to force anything. Be willing to set boundaries. It shows the girl that you really care for her. Look, I know more about one girl than most people, and I have yet to touch her. She trusts me enough to know that I am sticking around for her, not the bag of bones she lives in. Last night she told me some very personal stuff about her, even though she was afraid that I might treat her differently. But she told me anyways. That is when you know you have a keeper. I don't fully know what she means to me, but I do know that I don't want to lose her. In short, if you are there for her, she will be there for you. just be willing ot put in the time.