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Edited by Tri1k:
7/9/2018 4:10:43 AM
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Could use some life help/advice/need to rant
So I haven’t told anyone except Slimy about this, and even him I haven’t really told much about it, I know that this might not be the place for this always, but I trust a lot of you guys. So what happened was I got kicked out of swim practice one day, it was a morning practice and I was tired and all that, so I wasn’t going all that fast, the summer coach asked me to get out and I didn’t, 3 times. I didn’t want to get kicked out because I knew if I did I’d get in trouble and my friends would probably be mad at me still. But I’m kinda dumb and am happy with my half developed plan. Well, it backfired (my luck) and my friends won’t really talk to me, sometimes they would text me. The real reason they aren’t really talking to me is their parents think the coach is some god. So it was pretty lonely but I do still have a friend from school who I play with (anyone in my Discord, that’s Ahrix).
Well, that’s the backstory, I could deal with that, I knew my friends would come around, I knew I just needed to prove that I wouldn’t do that again (I’m probably not going to do long course season for swim anyway next year) but then something else happened. My friends were talking to me occasionally and playing games with me occasionally. It was starting to get better. Then I get a text from my friend saying to get on Xbox. I was pretty excited because I figured this would be the day that I get to play with them for more than a few games and they might start talking to me like they used to.
I was wrong. They invited me to a party, I joined, then my friends asked me why I used one of them as an excuse as to why I got in trouble. I didn’t do that. Let’s call the guy I supposedly used Steve. So when I was explaining to my mom what happened when I got kicked out, I did mention Steve. There is another guy involved. He’s kinda one of the few people that get me really pissed off and he is very obnoxious. We’re going to call him Bob. So when the coach told me to get out, I kept swimming, Bob came and started grabbing my legs and stuff. Then Steve came out and started talking to me. What he told me was the only reason I went back and got out. The reason I mentioned him in my explanation to my mom of what happened, was I said something along the lines of “I would have punched Bob in the face if Steve hadn’t came and started telling me to go back.” That is the only time I mentioned him.
So that means someone is spreading something. My friend Steve said the coach told his mom that I said that about what I told her about why I got kicked out was his fault. I hardly even talked to the coach. I didn’t tell her that at least. What do I do? Thanks for any advice guys. Sorry it was really long just need to rant and get this out :/
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3 RepliesI haven't read other replies to this yet, so, if what I say overlaps other advice, I'm sorry to repeat what you've already heard. The first person I think you should talk to is Steve. Explain to him that your mom misinterpreted what you told her, and explain how we all know that moms are overprotective, never blame their own kid, always blame someone else's kid, so it was a miscommunication that got misconstrued even further by the "mom factor." Tell him that you really want to make things right, because if he got in trouble when he shouldn't have, it has to be corrected. Ask him who it is he wants you to talk to in order to explain things properly, or what else he would need to make the situation right. Maybe even offer to introduce him to your mom, and with him there, explain how Steve shouldn't have gotten in trouble and how she misheard you. That way you're giving Steve the power to decide how this can be fixed, which will make him feel appreciative and know that you are genuine. By offering a solution, and also asking him to come up with one, you are saying that there IS a solution. So by him trying to think of a solution, in his mind, he will already be thinking in a mindset where a solution is possible. After you talk to Steve and do what it takes to set things straight, when other people bring it up, don't talk about details. Just say that what happened to Steve wasnt right, it was a miscommunication, and you worked it out with Steve. Leave it at that. That way people will go to Steve for the details, and hear from him that you ended up being a class act. It will be more powerful coming from Steve, and will be much more likely to fix people's opinions of you, than you trying to plead your own case to them.
