Imagine if gay was the norm and you were straight. You wouldn't necessarily try to be flamboyant about being straight. Howver, because of the juxtaposition of your actions to those around you, everything you do is more pronounced and seems to be more attention-seeking than it actually is, as it is different.
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Gay isn't the norm bud
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I was using an opposite situation to try to help you understand the true situation. Clearly it didn't work.